Well I lasted a day!! almost

Alright well let me tell you straight up hating yourself will make it IMPOSSIBLE to quit porn. The less self esteem you have, the more you need your 'crutch'.

You need to go easy on yourself man. Just dont worry about it. After all, its your addiction talking, not you.

You need to replace PMO with healthy habits. Gym, cardio (running, cycling etc) socialising you name it. Make yourself busy and youll naturally find it easy. Once you have improved your life and stop beating yourself up, youll find it a much easier journey.

 

I did not understand the shaming/self esteem connection!!! wow. thank you very much @bigboibez

 

I have the same problem as you and find that netflix is great at triggering old habits of PMO. I also find it's easy to blame yourself for a failure and then that feeling is used to justify a binge of porn.

I have heard this saying "i hit rock bottom" before and I think I have wanted to make the latest chapter "the bottom" but it almost never seemingly is.

I feel like two ppl live in me too, also, agree that I have started going to the gym, my original idea was to punish my body with doing something good since I've been abusing it by PMO for so long. I look stronger, feel stronger but I'm still not much better with my habit.

I hope it comes with time.

 

Yeah man realistically it ruined my mental health.
Before starting nofap i was a happy guy on top of my life, with a bad recreational habit. After 8 months of failing nofap, my mind became thoroughly obsessed with pmo and i hated myself. At one point it got so bad the only thing i enjoyed in my day was going to bed as it would end my suffering.

Long story short your addiction doesnt define you. Beating yourself up about it just makes everything worse, in every way.

If pmo doesn't affect your life, it isnt that important. Treat it lightly and stay positive and itll naturally stop. If youre more addicted then the best way to tackle this is use the sadness and remorse as a deterrent to PMO. Remember how bad you feel afterwards. Tell people who care about you. They will support you and make it seem less like you are trapped. Also take it one step at a time. Its very easy for your brain to think 'wow i cant do this for the rest of my life' but urges come and go and after theyve gone you'll wonder what all the fuss was about. Keep a journal and remind yourself of how you will look back and be proud. Also know your why.