Was 30 last time here - Now I'm 33. This is it. This is it.

Hey guys,
Is been a while and my life has changed so much since the last time I was here. I did get a great job, well paid, all seems to be good. I have a bunch of female friends now.

But, I did start dating this girl whom I really like, and there I was anxious AF cuz the PIED kicked in, holy shit.

I mean, I did had hope that this was not going to happen at all since I don't PMO as often as I used to.

But there it was, now, I decided, this is it. No more. I think the best way to go about it is just be smart about how to properly do a reboot, without being hard on myself, because even my mindset has changed.

This is my new Threat - My new presentation, my new journey with a great opportunity before me.

 

Also, I want to start adding to this threat.

2 Important points:

1. Escorts do not help - They just make it worst, because they make you feel like you're doing great, but, it's definitely not a real thing it's a service, is not real, there's no feelings, there's no real connection.
2. Do not think that lowering down your PMO frequency will definitely help you. After more than 23 years of PMO, even though during the past few years I haven't been hanging out much, you know, deep inside that this is not the way. 23 yrs is hell of a lot of time and it's definitely not going to help you if you don't just quit.

 

Yes! For sure!
I think that's just something we gotta accept. Also, by accepting it means that, we do have to think on how much pain this has inflicted on us:

• Performance Anxiety
• The want for a real, honest and fulfilling relationship.
• The joy of truly engaging in healthy sexual relationships.
• Approach anxiety to girls out of thinking not being able to perform.

All of these and more, also, I wanted to highlight that today I had a great meditation session, focused on healing some of my past wounds.

It felt great, also, it's allowing to control the anxiety that pushed me a bit yesterday.

I'm still anxious about this weekend, because I'm going hang out with the girl I'm dating, but I guess it's just the first time I truly do engage in something real, which would sound weird for a 33 YO. But, I guess I'm just going to take it easy and see it as it comes, without trying to feel guilty or ashamed.

That's going to be my approach from now onwards. I'm still young. Taking the reins of my own life and see it as it comes.

 

Yep! that's something I've been doing more and more - Thanks for the reminder!

It is. It really is, makes you feel like wth is happening, specially seeing that I really like this girl. But hey, I'm gonna take it easy and go with the flow.

Oh man, thank you so much for sharing this experience, because I've been thinking about it the whole week. Now, I'm a bit curious did you completely open up about the issue with her?

 

Oh man that's dope! Thanks for sharing. This really had me thinking this couple of day!

 

Hey guys!
Thanks for reading this threat that it seems to be gaining some momentum which is nice for a change.
It's great to be able to share my thoughts and fears here written down. I think this is such a hard topic that's just surrounded by shame and by a lot of stigmas that I'm constantly struggling about this.

In about an hour I'm going to go pick her up from her job, we're going to spend the weekend together, and as you guys already put out to me, I think the best approach is just taking it day by day, moment by moment.

I think just having this mindset has definitely helped me.

Fear is a great part of it, for me it's just thinking that I do give a shit about this and I do want to improve.

 

Hey guys,

I did spend some time this weekend with the girl I told you guys of.

It was nice, I had some issues yeah. But I mean I did my best and took it easy.

She did ask though , I came straight with her, I was ashamed but after that, it felt great.

I just said to her to have some patience and that’s it, I mean she’s a doctor so she kinda got it.

This time I feel like I’m doing much better then the last time that I tried to reboot.

The main reason is because I did took a more hands on approach on life.

 

Hey guys,

I think I'm currently facing a Flatline period. Which honestly I think it's really good, plus, just my mindset around porn after these couple of super shameful situation for me has allowed me to not even think about it.

The right mentality is just what I've been thinking lately should be a Growth Mindset and I've never had the chance to really understand it that well since I was more focused on failures, the past and also just thinking about the FINAL GOAL.

The final goal is having a FIXED MINDSET. My thought process was around just getting a great relationship with great sex and overall just love flowing all around.

Now, I have a nice thing going on, it's not something that's super idealistic either, but I'm just happy, just super happy that I'm living it and that I've never imagined that it could've happened with the girl I'm dating.

I think the attitude on itself, it's what allowed me to put effort on it and do believe that it can work, that it can move fwd and be able to completely enjoy it for real.

We can't idealize everything, it's just a point of efforts and sometimes trying to get out of our ways and trying and put some effort into something that's really damn scary, it's just mind-wrecking but so much better than being a NPC.

I've always been the NPC, but now I'm living my life as the main character of my own story.

Cheers,

 

Hello guys,

Today something really interesting happened - In the past I've never ever thought of two girls being attracted to me at the same time.

I went on a lunch date with a friend that I've been asking to go out for quite some time. She's nice and pretty too, I think she's just a friend for now, but she seems to be attracted to me for real.

Anyways, it's just a thought because honestly this has never happened to me in the past and it's quite interesting to see it now in my early thirties.

I'm still going strong with this mindset of mine, like I've told you guys, this time around it feels different, I think the whole growth mindset makes wonders for real.

Thanks to this place, to the community, to the information, the books out there, thanks for allowing me to see a path and a light on something so weird and so strange at first that I couldn't possibly imagine that it had a solution.

So yeah, infinite thanks.

Will keep you guys updated on my progress with PIED and other stuff on my body of course!