Wanting to reboot with my gf..need advice

SoSik · Feb 18, 2019

I am in a long term relationship with which I’ve had really bad PIED. For the last month I’ve been trying to do NoFap to which I’ve gone on a two week streak and a 1 week streak. Last night my gf and I fooled around and she gave me a handjob to orgasm. I relapsed this morning and jerked off after she left for work. She doesn’t know I’m on NoFap. I feel like after we do something it’s hard to abstain from masturbating right after. Like something in my head tries to justify it even more than usual telling me things like “oh you just came last night what’s one more time gonna do”. I still have abstained from porn but not orgasm... in a way I feel like it’s good for our relationship though that we are sexual.... makes her feel good that she still gets me off... what should I do..?

kropo82 · Feb 18, 2019

Read up on the chaser effect. It does make resisting hard, but not impossible. Plus, if you know it's coming you can go to the gym more (or whatever works for you) the following day.

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/what-is-the-chaser/

tatt2666 · Feb 21, 2019

SoSik said: ↑

I am in a long term relationship with which I’ve had really bad PIED. For the last month I’ve been trying to do NoFap to which I’ve gone on a two week streak and a 1 week streak. Last night my gf and I fooled around and she gave me a handjob to orgasm. I relapsed this morning and jerked off after she left for work. She doesn’t know I’m on NoFap. I feel like after we do something it’s hard to abstain from masturbating right after. Like something in my head tries to justify it even more than usual telling me things like “oh you just came last night what’s one more time gonna do”. I still have abstained from porn but not orgasm... in a way I feel like it’s good for our relationship though that we are sexual.... makes her feel good that she still gets me off... what should I do..?
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im in the same situation , im in a long term relationship and trying to reboot (and she dosnt know of course) , for me the reboot is about my attitude to porn and how much i pmo or used to , nofap for me is about no pmo and enjoying a healthier more meaningful sex life with my partner . i know there is the chaser effect but thats just not realistic to avoid in a relationship unless you tell them the full story and they totally support and abstain with you . but i think trying to combat the 'chaser effect' is part of the reboot and part of of the learning process that is tough and will get tougher but in the end think the benefits will out way all of that .

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