Wanting to act out everytime

You can check the following article by the founder of nofap on the website yourbrainonporn.com:

How I learned to stop worrying and fight urges

 

Well, something to keep in mind is that sexual urges are natural. We are biological beings with an imperative to mate and form strong bonds with someone to raise offspring. Its hardwired into us.

Here's the test. Would you be embarrassed for an average person to know what your urges consist of? If the answer is yes, than do your best to squash them. And...it sounds like its time to find a partner (IF you've gotten rid of your habits for a decent period of time). But...don't focus on the sexual aspect. Focus on finding a partner you'd be happy sharing almost every aspect of your life with and trust...then let the pieces fall into place. An eventual normal, sane, monogomous life partner SHOULD be your ultimate goal. That's where you will begin rewiring your brain for normal, health sexual activity. But..fix yourself first. Hard mode...reset...they deserve that.

Something that helped me actually make it 180 days in the past was learning to tell myself "NO" around every corner. I thought about going and doing some easily accessable stuff....risky behavior. The thought pops in....I flex every muscle in my body and yell "NO!" in my head...and immediately leave the room if I'm alone. If my mind wanders because the task I'm engaged in grows dull....BOOM....force myself to change my situation and find something else to do. Its TOUGH to do at first...but it becomes easier and easier with practice. Almost like giving yourself a mental slap if an urge for something pops up. Eventually they grow less intense...and less frequent.

 

I was in the same boat. Don't let this be too triggering please...but my reply may be slighty graphic.


I have been an addict since I was 15. Daily....I was probably masturbating four or five times for ten years to the WORST things imaginable. And when I wasn't doing that, I engaged in high risk behavior with men, and I don't even consider myself bi or gay. It led to me losing my mind and almost taking my own life.

But I fixed myself. I had enough and quit, and was successful for years. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, and I still struggle. You'll have urges. Don't rely on yourself in the moment to overcome them. Think about yourself in the future. How can you stop yourself tomorrow? Also....cold showers work!!!!! Take cold showers! They are horrible, but work so so well!

So much success and happiness came from quitting. It is doable, and you are NEVER to far gone...and there is so much in the world to enjoy. You're not alone in this struggle. Urges will happen, make a plan for dealing with them now...

If you feel like you need to make other changes, maybe you should. Maybe you should look at your surroundings and fix them, and yourself. Its your responsibility to the world, and to God if you still have any faith. Maybe the best people are tested the most...who knows. All I know is I have been the worst-case scenario....and you can make it out of it if I did. Wish you the best. Stay strong.