Hey everyone, Are there any other middle 20 - early 30 year old males who are also still virgins who can relate to me? I am personally waiting until marriage for a number of reasons, but I definitely want to have the most special connection with my future spouse. I'm currently 25, and while I have a lot of urges to have sex, I am not acting on them because I have it under control. What I am most concerned about is this notion that I have become obsessed with. I am currently exploring several potential female interests, i.e. meeting them/becoming good friends. I'm in the early stages of a relationship. Yet, as I mentioned, I have this idea in the back of my mind that is causing me a lot of distress. For some reason, for the last few weeks, I've been focused on thinking constantly about how I am not going to be getting married - probably until my late 20's. Say 28 or so. And I can't stop stressing about how I won't have had sex until then. I feel like I'm wasting time and my "younger years." Maybe I'm buying into the notion that the best sex is young sex. I was reading the other week on here where some people were encouraging a much older virgin that his 30s could be some of his best years sexually with whomever he ended up meeting. I have to wait, for personal reasons, religious reasons, and just because I want my first time to be something amazing on my honeymoon. I read that the first time is psychologically important...so if it is with your wife, you are building an amazing relationship. You won't persuade me to go out and have some random hookup to satiate this desire, but hopefully some other guys can assure me that waiting until I am a little bit older isn't going to be something I'll regret. I want to get my mind back and focus this spent energy on a girl. And of course it's so much more than just having sexual relations, I find myself longing for affection, for someone to love, for someone to cook for....take care of, serve, hang out with, be best friends with, exercise with, hold hands with, snuggle in bed with, kiss, etc.... I want what I see my brothers have and achieved at a much younger age...happiness. I also seem to struggle with comparing myself to others who have a completely different life...but that's another struggle I suppose. Any encouragement would be appreciated. Thanks everyone.