VR porn, and the downfall.

Around 4 years ago I was in a super unhealthy relationship. I had suspected my manipulative girlfriend was cheating on me, and finally I had found out.

I wasn't in a good mindset and I was torn to pieces, but she didn't know yet. I didn't want to believe it and we attempted to have sex. Although this time, for the first time. I went completely soft mid sex. To keep it simple she was not supported, stormed out and made a scene It destroyed my ego, and confidence.

I eventually moved away for a career change, bought a VR headset and found VR porn, this is where I think the PMO got bad. Every day I was PMO with this VR headset, a new level of immersion I thought this would suffice until one day I started dating again.

I was so nervous that I would lose an erection again during sex, and sure enough I did. Only this girl was supportive, she let us relax and cuddle, and kiss until it came back. Throughout our relationships I continue to have bouts of PMO'ing and just recently I realized I need to stop.

I'm looking for people to say you can get that confidence, and boner 'strength' again. I truly hope I can reattain that confidence, and trust in myself.