Vivid sexual wet dreams: Relapse?

No it doesn’t.

Up until recently I believed wet dreams were a negative effect of your reboot but it’s actually the complete opposite. I find that after a wet dream I do sometimes notice a drop in energy but after recovering I feel a slight jump in my progress.

See it as your body self-regulating and gradually healing itself.

 

I’ve just posted on a thread I started earlier and this exact same thing happened to me just half an hour ago which I woke from immediately. Like you I don’t believe it all came out - I feel like I stopped it quite abit because even in my sleep I felt it coming on. But unlike you there was no graphic imagery it just sort of came out with a strange dream I was having of me walking up a road/hill. I immediately knew it was involuntary because I knew I would not have sat here and consciously stimulated myself to orgasm, no fucking way. 456 days today I’ve come way too far to even want to. I felt really negative amid the strangeness of it but it’s a nocturnal emission, there was nothing I could have done to stop it anyway! Definitely not a relapse bro so you’re good.

 

Wet dreams are never counter to recovery.

 

Can you expand on that please bro. What do you mean ‘wet dreams never counter to recovery’?

 

Wet dreams are natural male biological functioning...one way, among others, that the male body takes care of itself. This is not relapse, but the opposite - finally nature is taking care of itself and not disturbed by a whacked-off system of voluntary and addictive self-whacking off. Dreamwork is meant to process and reprocess all sensory experience collected in the brain from the present and from the past. When the mind is overloaded with constant poisoning of porn, it is expected that the brain will vomit this out or repackage and rewire it at the very time when we are on the wagon of recovery. It seems like a relapse because the images pass through our imaginary field of sight, but that is negligible. Like the heroin addict who when going cold turkey will go through hell while recovering, especially vomiting all the poison ingested over the years, the same is true with a mind poisoned by too much porn. Just because we see it as it comes up from within and flushes out, that is not a bad thing, but just the opposite. The only real risk after a wet dream is that the body and mind will get a little agitated after awakening, occasioning a possibility of a voluntary relapse in PMO. But, like any dream that gets forgotten, if you just remain calm and let it sink away, then the imaginary thoughts will subside and the sexual organs will calm down again. Nofap becomes a doable lifestyle, especially as male biology takes care of itself.
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My friend you absolutely nailed that just then! WOW! You’ve definitely got this down to a tee. I had one myself nearly an hour ago and I’ve been feeling a little messed up. Not because I thought I’d relapsed but because of the strong feelings and imagery rolling through my mind. Tonight for the first time in well over a year I felt the danger of relapse to PMO. Thanks heavens I didn’t because I didn’t even consider it but I felt it, it was there albeit for just half an hour! This is the tricky part because I’m so far in (456 days today) but it appears I’ve still got a way to go. For the last month I’ve been stimulated to a degree by talking with a beautiful girl on FaceTime causing me to have three imageless wetdreams. I haven’t relapsed at all or even reset but I feel like it my progress has been slowed to a degree. What are your thoughts on this bro? I really need help here!

 

First, congrats on 495 days - great!

Second, wet dreams will always be a natural part of life. Your goal is not to get to a point when you no longer need them. Your brain and body will use them when they need to and/or put them aside when they are not needed. Just ignore such events and actually be kind of glad they periodically happen, as a sign of good health - just like a virgin youthful lad, pure and untarnished from P, who experiences wet dreams.

Finally, you are well along in recovery if you are finding yourself functioning rather well from day to day, where PMO is not constantly an urge or compulsion as it was before. I expect you have achieved this. Of course, this does not mean that we can be undisciplined. We must exercise custody of the eyes when street side and practice all our familiar healthy regimens that keep us in balance and sober. Sometimes fear and worry are our enemy, too. It's good to have a healthy fear and respect of how we can easily lapse if we get to cocky, but needless worry is counterproductive and may be the addict self just trying to break us down.

You seem like you're on the right track.

 

Thankyou brother! I appreciate that and also your insight too.

As far the compulsion to PMO I have long since beaten the urge. I no longer have to battle with it but tonight I felt the danger - it would have been so easy to sit at the laptop and bounce one off even against my better judgement but thankfully I realised given time, even a few minutes of putting my mind somewhere else, it would pass and it has thank god. Even if the urge had stayed I wouldn’t gone the other way because it would have broken my heart. I don’t need that or want it. I have no real issue with wet dreams, I am fully aware that they wouldn’t happen if they weren’t supposed to. No involuntary bodily function happens by accident. We don’t get a cold by accident or a headache, or a muscle spasm. I know it just my body being my body and I’m glad that now I have them abit more frequently given the clarity your words have brought me. I’m on the right track yes!

I’m targeting at least 650 days before I even consider rewiring to be self-assured in my brain. Tonight wasn’t scary because I know I’ve come so far why even bother looking back but as I said I felt the danger of relapsing but my emission was afterward accompanied by strong feelings and imagery. At the same time I take it as a healthy lesson that no matter how far along, P can be a sneaky little fucker and creep in during those moments of weakness/vulnerability.

 

i had a wet dream today,just an hour ago,i had got up very late,like around 7 when my actual time for waking up is 5 am.this is what really caused the emission,i had bought my subconscious more time to dwell on unhealthy things.i am not resetting the counter so as to keep myself motivated on this forum,but yes i do feel a little drop in energy levels and motivation.

 

You can and should only reset your counter if you were wide awake and consciously aware of what you were doing/what was happening. You were alseep it has nothing to do with your counter. As you can read above m, and the brother JoeinMD has very meticulously explained it that this isn’t actually a sign of recovering health. You are on the right track. I too had a negative to feeling filling mine but it passes if you let it pass and don’t dwell on it! Your regaining your health! It was a good thing

 

thank you so much for explaining this clearly i was in a dilemma.