I am 24 years old I have been addicted to porn for 9 years. Since a couple of years I have been experiencing no morning woods and very few random erections during the day. Now, I have not touched myself for 31 days (plus 20 days before that relapse). I don't feel an excesive libido so I suppose that I continue in flatline. Although, I sometimes have random erections now. Regarding morning woods, I had some erections a minute after waking up (but I never woke up with the erection). Another thing I noticed is that these random erections aren't completely full. So, my questions are: Is an erection right after waking up actually a morning wood or not? Would I get I a full erection If I had sex during the flatline?
Erections upon waking up are morning wood, and there's no predicting when these will occur - it's normal to have them and normal to not have them for a while - and they can occur regardless of what else sexually or not is going on in our lives. It's better not giving into the temptation of touching and testing - it won't prove anything and may just lead to a relapse. Morning wood or lack thereof are not indicators of what would happen during actual sex, whether you'd have erectile dysfunction or not. Better to undergo a hardmode reboot (no PMO) for 3 months or more if that's a problem.
Even though the morning woods are not super hard, they are still a good sign that your body is returning to normal function. Don't worry too much about how full they are. If you go back to sex right now, which you should, it is likely you won't have full blown erections yet. This is totally ok, happened to me after my first reboot as well. Stick to missionary and lying doggy positions, since they allow an easy tube for the penis to slide in and out of and provide good tightness. Over time your body will realize the sex is good, and get harder each time. It may take a few months, but your erections will definitely get better
Thanks, the problem with having sex at this point is that I'm a virgin. That leaves me some insecurities with my potential performance and doing it during the flatline period only adds more anxiety. I don't mean to say that I'm avoiding sex, it's only that I'm not taking any initiative towards it.
I totally understand that feeling. I developed a bad PMO addiction when I was a virgin, so my first times having PIV sex was after my reboot. Here are my thoughts on you situation: There's only one way to get over this, and that's by having sex. It's the only way forward. Might as well get it done at some point. Performing well for your partner and having a good time yourself is not dependent at all on how hard you are or how good you are. There's so much more to sex. The connection, intimacy, and pleasure is completely separated from what's going on with your penis. Change your ideas about sex to be much more about intimacy and connection, and you and your partner will have a much better time.
