Toxicity

"Sexuality becomes more important as you get more identified with the body. As you become less identified with the body, the need for sex recedes."

 

We've been too soft on ourselves.
It only works when we know there's no other way.
Find a hefty price to pay if next time you fail. (No self hurt allowed)

 

Recovery in isolation is proven extremely hard, because if you just quit your drugs, you will end up in an excruciating void. I firmly suggest that you put some effort in breaking your isolation. It could be done by joining a local 12-step group (SLAA, SAA, ACA), group therapy or any other reoccurring social activity.

 

They portray themselves as victims. This is a big problem.

How do you want to change anything with such a pessimistic attitude towards life?

"The path of excess leads to the palace of wisdom."

They can grow extremely from their suffering, their pain and their wounds.

If you've been at it for so long and haven't been able to break the addiction, then you're doing something wrong.

Write to me privately and I will send you readings on how you can overcome this addiction in a structured manner and change your life.

 

Have you tried journaling? Journaling has the effect of making the boring interesting.

 

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Do i need to comment?

Keep repeating that to yourself and it will remain so.

 

Hey friend, you should know that what you're going through is not so unusual. We all here are looking for help and that alone requires courage. My life is not so different than what you described (and i imagine than quite a few of users' life here) even though i'm guessing i'm a little younger.

I'm of the opinion that it's our thoughts that define our hapiness. That's not to say you can think your way to being happy. Of course your experiences unavoidably impact your thoughts. It is to say that if we are taking small actions, consisently, to improve our lives in the most relevant aspects (for examle your family relationship and your job) it's not going to matter what the end result will be. Because with persistence and faith that you are doing the right thing by helping yourself, well, for one there is zero possibility that it will be something negative, and secondly you will unavoidably build a self confidence in your thoughts that is going to impact the way others see you, how you see yourself and what happens to you (experiences).

If you want to know one of these pieces of action, don't think in terms of streaks on nofap when reflecting how your life is going. It should be but a support group for when you are losing motivation to abstain, but all the while you are doing all you can to avoid falling into slumps and depressive periods (gym/excersise, books, nature, tasteful music, talking to a stranger or past friends, reminding yourself of your goals, never settling etc.). Of course support means you yourself also giving advice because that too helps with clearing up your mind and focusing on the important short term goals