Tips for start dating in NoFap challenge?

Do you mean you are a very shy person? or are you ashamed of yourself?

You definitely need to improve your mindset when it comes to yourself and girls, are you shy when you're talking with boys aswell?

 

If you're ashamed of yourself because you're skinny I would start to do weightlifting.

When it comes to your hair style: Go to youtube and search for different hairstyles and find something you like, then get that hair style, or ask your hairdresser what kind of hairstyle would fit you and they probably got some tips for you.

Peoples opinions and judgements of you are none of your business, you can't read their minds and making up what they are supposed to be thinking about you is of not use to you.

Talking to strangers is always hard and scary when you haven't done much of it before. but try to do it more and you'll realise it's not going to hurt you and it's not as bad as you'd think it is.

Good luck, you are already far ahead of a lot of other guys since you started with Nofap and removed P from your life.

 

We have already made the decision to quit so we will be successful, there is no turning back now

 

Usually when people are ashamed of themselves, they're not doing things that would allow them to feel proud of themselves. More often than not, they're doing more things that make them ashamed than proud. So there's no shortcut to self respect here. You have to work for it.

What have you done lately that makes you proud of who you are?

If you aren't able to answer that, then it's time to start behaving in a way that someone you admire or respect would act.

Don't determine self respect through outcomes. Determine it through your actions no matter what the result is. Eventually you'll gain enough references in your life that will reinforce the thoughts and feelings of you becoming someone that you respect and admire.

If you don't like something about yourself, then either change the way you perceive it or actually do something about it externally.

A lot of shy people also want shortcuts to confidence and social freedom. They want the end result without having to work for it. They don't want to socialize because they're shy. They want to stop being shy, but they aren't willing to socialize.

Socializing takes practice and experience. At the beginning you'll be incompetent and insecure about it. So it takes courage to gain the necessary experience in order to gain the competence and confidence that you want.

There's no shortcuts here. Life and other people can be unpredictable, messy, awkward, unideal, uncertain, problematic, and painful. Things won't always go your way. That's why you need to place more value on the person you want to become and the life that you want to have despite what happens externally. Rather than placing importance on specific outcomes.

The more you socialize, the more you'll fail and get rejected, but also the more you'll succeed and be accepted.

The less you socialize, the less you'll fail and get rejected, but also the less you'll succeed and be accepted.

The way to the pleasure, solutions, and positive experiences is by learning to handle the pain, problems, and negative experiences.

Learn to embrace, seek out, and bask in tension, difficulty, and uncertainty. That's how growth happens. Porn helped to escape all of that, but also allowed you to neglect growth. Socializing and gaining self respect was something you would've gained long ago if you chose not to escape from facing those problems. So instead you're facing those same problems now, but your mentality to deal with tension / difficulty / uncertainty is a lot weaker now because you've conditioned yourself to escape reality so much.

The longer you neglect these problems and the more you seek out easy, certain, and instant gratification things like porn, the harder the problems will get and the weaker you'll be to face them.

 

Two words.

Audacity and gregarious.

Practice these two things and you'll gain self respect via your behaviors rather than outcomes.

Having the audacity to try something that you aren't good at. Something that has no guarantees. Something that might not work. Something uncertain and difficult. Something scary that takes courage. Being bold and daring.

Gregariously reaching beyond your current place. Trying to gain competence and confidence at something that you're insecure and incompetent at.

I gain a lot of self respect and self validation just from having the audacity and gregarious behavior to go for what I want despite no guarantees of success.

 

my tip is to have a very long streak. This will certainly help you.

 

Fix yourself. Right now it seems that your dating would only cause pain to all involved.

 

Yup you have to fix yourself before you get into a relationship. I would wait until you are further in your streak to start dating