Hey guys and girls, I was wondering something, preferably from those who have managed to successfully reboot or have remained "clean" for an extended period of time; when can you more or less safely determine which, if any, of your fetishes are innate and which ones were porn? I know for a fact that most of the ones I had are indeed porn-induced, as was quite evident yesterday when I stumbled upon a pic of a certain fetish which I had not been bothered by for the past two months until yesterday after I was "triggered" by that picture. Needless to say, I'm rather grumpy right now that I am again constantly dealing with these thoughts in my head as a result of this. However, it did raise a question I've been wondering about before; there are some fetishes, in my case soft/mild BDSM with a more assertive woman that I have had ever since I was in my early teens (I started becoming addicted to PMO in my very late teens to early 20s) and that I am, to a degree, very curious about. Note that I am not talking about full-blown femdom or something like that, but more like kinky games or whatever, without getting into too much detail. Femdom HAS been a fetish of mine, and it is definitely porn-induced. However, I also realize it's way too early at 2 months into my reboot to judge this with any amount of accuracy. So what is your experience with this? What do you guys recommend as a sort of "target time". Say, if I still have the fetish after 6 months of rebooting, my dick works normally again, I can get aroused by just looking at a naked woman again etc., is it safe to say this is something I might genuinely be interested in?
I am definitely seeing results in that the harder, more extreme fetishes have mostly slipped into the background (unless they're somehow triggered, as mentioned). Also, just this morning I managed to keep a solid erection while thinking of vanilla sex with this Indie Pop artist chick for the first time in quite a while, so that's another result, though unrelated to this topic. I never cared to fantasize about celeb women before, it was always some fantasy woman or pornstar before. Thanks for the encouragement!
I've found that its best not to try to parse these things apart. I have a fantasy that I had since junior high, long before I ever saw porn (or before there were interwebs). Later in life, internet porn just showed me that there were others with similar fantasies and internet porn nurtured that fantasy. I spent some time last month trying to figure out the WHY behind my "innate" fantasy and could only stumble back to PMOing about it. I'd recommend putting all fantasy away, inborn or acquired, both will lead you to be somebody you don't want to be. My two cents.
