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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by saddist_adult, Nov 26, 2023.

  1. saddist_adult

    saddist_adult Fapstronaut

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    Somehow i have been doing nofap for long time... Despite being teenager the urge to release is very strong at my age...

    I always wish to bump into one sexual stuffs, but not like stare at it forever... Because i haven't seen pussy for so long whenever i bumped into one accidentally i would thanks God for it... I be just scrolled away anyway less than 1 second...

    Would it still a relapse?
     
  2. WelcomeToReality

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    It's a bit of a mixed bag, yes and no. You stumbled but quickly pulled back, showing some resistance. This incident could be a slippery slope towards more indulgence, or it might be a one-time slip. It largely depends on your self-awareness and the reasons behind your urge to encounter sexual content. You've already hinted at one reason - not having seen a pussy for a while. However, there's more to it than just physical absence.Understanding your need for intimacy is key, but it's also crucial to explore why this need makes you uncomfortable. Is there a sense of inadequacy or frustration because you're not experiencing physical intimacy? These feelings can be complex, and understanding them is important.Recognize that our need for love and connection is fundamental. If you're feeling unloved, acknowledging and addressing this need is essential. Porn offers a false sense of fulfillment, merely delaying the real emotional connection you seek. It numbs you temporarily, only to return you to your starting point, often feeling worse.The key is self-love and finding joy in what you do. When you eventually encounter someone attractive, approach them with bold authenticity and loving-kindness. Building a true loving relationship might take time and effort, but it's far more rewarding than any fleeting satisfaction from porn. Once you're in a genuine relationship, you'll likely look back in wonder at your past reliance on porn and feel a strong urge to help others break free from its illusion, knowing firsthand what they're missing in life.
     
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  3. saddist_adult

    saddist_adult Fapstronaut

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    thanks man for writing all these! but first of it, you said yes and no, mean it could be relapse still? but i never actually intention to see it to see to be honest. Everytime i stumble upon it, but in the past it would be anxiety crumble over, but as long now, i seriously crave intimacy and urge to release, when i bumped into sexual one like naked boob or pussy spread, i would be happiest ever but i never dare to look at it, my brain just automatically scrolled away... imagine haven't done nofap for long, if there no urge of sexual tension then it would be a problem.
     
  4. WelcomeToReality

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    When you find yourself briefly glimpsing at seductive pixels, it's like a flicker of an old habit flashing before your eyes. It's not quite a relapse, but more of a wake-up call. This moment, swift as it is, serves as a reminder. It's not about a momentary lapse, it never was; it's a signal pointing to something deeper within your subconscious, a remnant of a past routine that's still lingering.To not dare to watch porn differs from trying to watch it and seeing it as it really is - fake, false-promising, taking out from you courage, self-esteem, and real intimacy, and in general, a much more fun life. When you are not daring to watch it, it means two things: your actions are based on fear, you fear to do what your shadow mind wants to, it's not a pleasant place to be, like being between a hammer and an anvil.It's important to acknowledge and understand this, not as a failure but as a part of the journey to self-awareness. Craving intimacy is a natural, human desire. It's the warmth of connection we all seek. However, the urge to release is different. It's crucial to differentiate between a healthy longing for closeness and an urge that's more about a quick fix, a temporary escape that porn falsely promises. True intimacy is about not getting release; the release and orgasm are the outcomes of connection and presence and giving love. The sexual anticipation, flirt, and building up the tension are actually much more fun and enjoyable than the orgasm itself.Sexual tension is indeed a powerful force, but it's not necessarily physical urges. It's a dynamic energy that can be channeled into creativity, into deepening your connections with others, and into personal growth. It's not something to be ever numbed or silenced, especially not with porn, even glimpsing at it. Porn is like putting a band-aid on a wound that needs air to heal. It might cover up the discomfort momentarily, but why are you feeling discomfort in the first place? Porn doesn't address the underlying need for genuine connection and expression, or anything like that. At best, it only delays your growth and real connection.Understanding sexual tension as a force that can be redirected and used positively is key. It's like discovering you have a powerful engine within you. You can let it run wild, or you can learn to drive it, steering it towards meaningful pursuits, deeper relationships, and a richer experience of life. This is the essence of harnessing your sexual energy – not suppressing it, but directing it towards building a life that is not only fulfilling but also reflective of who you truly are becoming. So, as you navigate these moments, remember that they're not just obstacles; they're opportunities to understand yourself better, to refine your journey towards genuine fulfillment and connection. It's about transforming what was once a source of struggle into a path of empowerment and authenticity.
     
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  5. saddist_adult

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    thanks again for the great encouragement, but how am i suppose to avoid all those>? it all over on the media... I could not avoid, i might feel good when i bumped into one, but it's not like i could not control my urge, in fact i do have self control, since my brain just reacts to those sensitive stuffs, instantly scrolled away anyways, I think i always happening not just happen to today, I mean it just my nature as a young male, from what you saying mean i can not get excite over all those things? it not like i looking for them, it just on social media, as i scrolled down there one or two everyday...
     
  6. WelcomeToReality

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    You don’t need to dodge every sultry pixel that crosses your path. When I consciously glance at porn now, without the intent to get hooked, it’s like looking at a bad movie with terrible acting. I see its fakeness and how repulsively it's robbed me of real experiences. It's like suddenly realizing you've been cheering for the cardboard cutouts at a football game instead of the real players. This new angle? It shows me the riches waiting in the real world, far away from the pixelated shadows.



    But here’s the fun part – genuine interaction. It’s not about the grand finale, the fireworks, but the dance leading up to it. The flirtation, the playful banter, the chase – it's like a game of chess with a hint of spice. It’s about enjoying the journey, not rushing to the destination. Imagine the anticipation, the thrill of the unknown, the game of building attraction. That's where the real joy lies, not in the fleeting moment of climax, but in the laughter, the witty exchanges, the subtle touches. Life is a carnival, and genuine sexual interaction is the most exhilarating ride.

    Stumbling upon a steamy photo on social media? It's a test of your newfound superpower of discernment. Sure, she's attractive, but attractiveness is just one piece of the puzzle. Remember, physical allure is just the surface – it's like getting drawn to a book by its cover. What truly counts is the story inside. She might be visually appealing, but who is she beyond the image? Is she kind, intelligent, funny? These qualities matter far more in the grand scheme of things.Think of it this way: just because something catches your eye doesn't mean it captures your heart. Physical attraction is natural, but it's shallow water. The depth comes from getting to know someone, understanding their character, their dreams, and their quirks. So, when you come across these photos, take them for what they are – mere snapshots. They are fleeting, lacking the depth and richness that real connections bring.Navigating these moments with a mindful approach is key. It's about recognizing the initial attraction but not letting it cloud your judgment. It's fine to acknowledge someone's attractiveness, but remember, it's just the tip of the iceberg. The real treasure lies beneath the surface, in the genuine connections and deep relationships you form when you look beyond mere appearances.

    Approaching someone? It's not a battlefield; it's more like an adventure into unknown territory. Sure, it can be scary – like singing karaoke for the first time. But once you're in the groove, it's exhilarating. You’re not just looking for a partner; you're exploring a new world of possibilities. Each conversation, each smile is a step on a journey of discovery. There's no script, and that's the beauty of it. It’s about being real, being you, and finding joy in the genuine connections you make.

    Now, back to social media scrolling. Why are you on there, really? Hunting for news? There are far better places for that. Checking on friends? Social media is just a parade of perfect facades. A phone call gives you the real scoop. So, ask yourself, why the endless scrolling? If you're after something specific, like research or a project you love, then a random risqué image won't throw you off your game. But aimless scrolling is a slippery slope, akin to the haze of watching porn. It's not just a waste of time; it's playing with fire, edging closer to old habits. Why play with matches when you can light up your life with real sparks? Get out there and experience the real deal. Genuine connections are waiting, and they’re way more satisfying than any filtered photo or pixelated fantasy. Life’s a banquet, and most poor folks are starving to death. Don’t be one of them. Join the feast of real, tangible, exhilarating human interaction. Trust me, it’s worth every step.
     
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  7. saddist_adult

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    Social media is the only thing that i must tracking down the trends also of course local news and global news as such, plus relate interesed, since i'm working in the media industry, facebook, instagram, tiktok, for visual trending and for thirst of knowledge and accurate information Quora and reddit is my gateway... If i do not use social media to explore others, there's no way i can survive the industry like a frog in a cave. Isn't it that bad? to just stumble upon once in a while... i felt good but i do not beat myself up and count it as relapse yet, since it wasn't intentionally, but however the reason i made this posted probably due to anxiety... also i wanted to make sure whether i'm slacking off from PMO or being unawareness again, it really sneaky since i'm completely 80% heal from the addiction effects but unfortunately the consequences to my brain chemicals and guilts heavily, i taking all these to the grave...

    not like i'm trying to say you wrong, but you make it sound like something that wasn't intentional make terribly consequences, what i mean is, i think it's fine to just feel dopamine hit if i accidently bumped into one. To suppress the feelings it just as bad as hold urge to pee...
     

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