This is tough, but I realized I had to admit this to myself because I'm so ashamed of the effects it's had on my life. I started masturbating right when I hit 13 and have never stopped. In fact, like the symptoms I'm reading about, it's only escalated. I'm 28 and I've never had a lasting relationship with a woman, mainly because of the secret fear that the erectile problems cause by my constant stimulation by increasingly graphic pornography and excessive masturbation. It's even starting to affect my masturbation, not being able to maintain an erection and in some cases, achieving orgasm. I feel like less of a man, and it's caused such a deep level of low self-confidence. There's a girl at work that I know is into me, and has even hit on me a few times, but I passed over it; not just because office relationships are usually a bad idea, but because of this debilitating anxiety over my sexual performance. That was a wake up call. What if I missed out on the chance for a great relationship over this crazy problem hanging over my head? I did a search and found this site. I want take back control of my sexual ability and libido. And I guess that means I need take a look at my life, and start changing my habits and overcoming my addiction. I'm just glad I'm not alone. So besides the obvious, how does this work. Any tips or resources guys? Thanks!
I'm in the same boat, and just lost a girlfriend of 2.5 years to it. I'm going to try a few small things to help break my small 'triggers' that seem to overwhelm my mind's ability to resist...like set my homepage and computer background to something motivating. Just remember this is an affliction that has taken MANY guys like you and me, but I don't think it makes us any less of a 'man'. In fact from what I've read as soon as the habit is finally broken and your brain is rewired, sex and relationships end up being better than ever. So far the only times that I've messed up have been when I was bored at home. Hit the gym, find things to go out and do and avoid being home alone as much as humanely possible. Good luck!
Hi Havetostop, good your here. 1. Be 100% dedicated. Coming from a guy who tried to quit 3 years for his gf and his God, and just a bit for himself, this one is crucial. I failed then, I am not failing now. 2. Get educated: www.yourbrainonporn.com 3. Get filters 4. Get yourself a new look on life. 5. Be active here. And I'm sure missing something but somebody else will correct that. Good luck!
