Theres a girl that I really want to know better

Hopefully this will help you by telling you my story of my crush. A Couple of months ago I had the courage to ask out this girl that I've had a crush on for years. I used to see her in high school but never had the courage to talk to her in person. A few years later after graduation (2 years)the thought of never asking her out or even talking to her in person haunted me. I had her on Facebook and we hadn't texted in a long time. I would always like her post and she would do the same. So I said fuck it, am I going to have this regret for the rest of my life? Or am I going to ask her out. "Iv'e Never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl before. So let me say I was terrified. I sent her a text through Facebook; because I've never seen her again since high school ,and asked if she wanted to hand out sometime, and she said yes. I was super nervous to go to her house to pick her up but once I got in the car; I felt my fear go away and instead of being scared, I was excited. I'm doing it I thought! I had a lot of fun with her and had a lot of great moments. Were not together anymore but I don't have this regret no more. So My advice would be to step straight into that fearful situation and ask her to hang out. I would do it in person. Put your nicest clothes on hear a song that pumps you up and walk over and talk to her. Say "hey" "hows it going" and work your way to "you want to hang out sometime?'" Treat her as if shes one of your guy friends. And If you cant do this I would go with asking her to hang out through text. Whatever way you chose you have to take action. Whatever the result is doesn't matter, you did it anyways you won.

 

Usually when you fear the outcome or you're unable to express yourself honestly towards someone you're attracted to, it's because you lack experience. You can't gain the experience if you don't allow yourself the possibility of rejection and making a lot of mistakes.

People who are confident in their social lives are confident because they’re comfortable with rejection.

People who are confident in their relationships are confident because they’re comfortable with getting hurt.

People who attain success often are the ones that fail often.

The more you risk, the more you fail, but also the more you succeed.

The less you risk, the less you fail, but also the less you succeed.

Repeated competence leads to confidence. You can't reach competence if you don't have the courage to gain the necessary experience by starting off as incompetent and insecure.

It's almost better than you don't get what you want. So you can experience being incompetent and insecure at this area of your life. Which leads you to muster up the courage to gain competence and confidence.

Try to talk to her in person. You can't hide behind facebook or texting forever.

You have anxiety because you're being overly cautious and excessively careful. You don't want to fail, get rejected, or make mistakes, but that's how you become better. Let go of the story that you have to be perfect or that everything in life has to go your way. You have to start out incompetent and insecure. Avoiding this process in the past is now biting you in the ass because now you have to try this with someone you don't want to mess up with.