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The struggle is real

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by mynameisjeff, Sep 20, 2016.

  1. Sep 20, 2016 #1
    mynameisjeff

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    Hi there all.

    My name is TJ (27) and I first heard about the way of SR and the taoist teachings of mantak chia in 2014. I tried hard to abstain from ejaculation and got to 30 days plus a couple of times. It felt great and I honestly felt like I had more enthusiasm for life and much more energy and strength.
    But the following year I went through spates of one and two week cycles and could not do better.
    I am now on day 23 not including a wet dream from last week. I do not look at porn anymore but the abstinence from ejaculation causes me to think of past sex partners and makes me contemplate cheating on my girlfriend.
    Reading peoples stories on this website helps a lot but still it's a struggle. does anyone have similar experiences and bad thoughts all the time?
     
    mynameisjeff, Sep 20, 2016
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  2. Sep 20, 2016 #2
    Septimus

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    Welcome TJ, I'm glad you are here.

    My experience with abstinence is that you get used to it, and the freedom and self mastery is a wonderful thing.
     
    Septimus, Sep 20, 2016
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  3. Sep 20, 2016 #3
    Islanders190

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    Hey Jeff I hear your struggle. Maybe having some sort of support group like an in person group can help you. As for the thoughts you gotta remind yourself they are just thoughts, it's not bad. What's troubling is if you act on them. So maybe practicing mindfulness could help you. I never heard about sexual transmutation until someone on this forum ménationed mantak chia. He has some great and valid points, something I'm trying to implement into my life instead of acting out and feeling shame and guilt for relapsing the millionth time
    P
     
    Islanders190, Sep 20, 2016
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