The real cause of addiction.

"So the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. It is human connection."

I couldn't agree more! I think this is why some addicts do so well in rehab but relapse once out in the real world. They go back to their isolated lives. I watched a documentary about prisoners and solitary confinement. Absurdly abusive.

Great article, thanks for sharing!

 

I posted this same article a while back.

It's so powerful and really helped me. The more balanced and less isolated I become the easier things become. It's like magic.

And if/when I do take a peek at p-subs, I'm not powerlessly drawn in. I have enough inner strength to get out of it.

This PMO thing is much more than a simple fix like "delete all of your porn and get K9" I'm glad you re posted this.

 

Great article. I saw that a while back. Just goes to show how addiction of all kinds is a symptom of the break down in community and human connection that our current socioeconomic model causes. We are becoming more and more isolated, and our instincts as social animals simply can't handle it.

 

I agree to with the article.I asked for helf 3 years ago and it helped me to stop from watching porn but I couldn't stop MO or the desire to go back to porn.After 1 month conversations about my addiction or my feelings stopped.After 3 years of fighting with myself i gave up and 8 months later here i am.Yes at first it helped but i never learned how to deal with my feelings and with the root of the problem,how to connect with others and not be alone.Im trying to learn all this myself and so far it looks im on the right path.I found that talking (writing here) and trying to connect to people,taking a chance makes it easier to resist.I only wish I could have someone in my life who could support me ,who understands ,who would stay even after seeing the ugliness of addiction.In these way I could never connect to someone.

Its nice to have these kind of discussions at least here.
Thank you.

 

I got into porn when I was in college. I had no real friends. No one I connected with. Everyone was pretty loaded since it was a private school. I went there because it was close to home. I rode the bus everyday & ate $.03 Tootsie Rolls for lunch. I felt more & more isolated as time went by. I isolated myself as well since I wasn't comfortable with anyone. I met a girl one summer who was taking a class with me. She went to a different school. She was friendly! I never ran into anyone who was friendly. I remember walking by the river with her & my heart was just pumping! I was pretty aroused as well. It wasn't because she was gorgeous. It was because she was nice & connected with me. Man that meant so much! Unfortunately, she was gone after the summer.

My 3rd yr I got my first porn. Rest is history. It disgusted me but it was all I had. I was just lonely.