The "hottest girl" myth

Now i can see womens with flaws.
Now i can see who i like or not personality not appearance.
Man the elites did us dirty......
Before i brushed all girls under one comb whether i like them or not i still lustfully approached..

Now its all stopped and gone.

Life is Beautiful.

 

I don't think there's such a thing as a hot girl - there are women who people find attractive and women who they don't find attractive. Calling someone hot comes from a judgmental place. Physical attraction is important but there needs to be a connection. I don't want to be with a woman who all I do is have sex but have nothing to talk about after.

Sounds to me like you had sex with a woman you just met which is a mistake in my opinion. Of course, you're going to have bad sex with someone you barely know. It's better to put off having sex.

 

This is a myth we all need to be freed from.
For me the most attractive women are humble and pure without too much makeup.

 

Love is different in western foreign countries, its bad

 

So this is something I actually think you might not be fully understanding. You talk about the "hottest" girl / woman, but you o ly talk about their looks and lack of intelligence. Is this your only requirement for the women you find most attractive??

 

Wouldn't the best be to be with someone you find super hot and good at sex and that you're emotionally attached to and they are attached to you too?

 

I can't fully relate to this due to my lack of dating experience, and also because I learned to steer clear of the most attractive woman. I learned a while back that as a guy, what's more important is who finds you attractive, rather than the reverse. I would sometimes make calculated attempts while pursuing women, thinking that the less attractive she was, the more likely she would say yes to a date. That turned out to be wrong; if there's no attraction on her end, then whether she herself is overly attractive or not will make no difference.

I've certainly heard a fair share of guys say the same thing. I find that many relationship begin and end with physical attraction on both sides, only to result in both parties hating each other when said relationship eventually falls apart. Sadly, these days attraction is placed as the highest priority, and people get together based purely on the desire they have for each other. While I believe this observation is grounded in our nature as a species, I still think people should use their heads more, sacrificing what looks the best in favour of what actually works the best.

You have no idea what I'd give to reach that place. Sometimes a woman will walk by (not necessarily an attractive one; sometimes just a woman I think I could theoretically have a chance with), and the first thing on my mind is what an encounter would be like. It isn't healthy, and to me it's a sign of a damaged and addicted mind.

Agreed. I have lots of female friends, and we all have something in common with each other in terms of our interests. They are some of the most rewarding friendships I've ever had, which makes me pity the countless relationships I've seen that are only based on attraction and sex. Those couples always fight and fuss about everything, while justifying their relationship purely on how good the sex is. We humans sure are a funny lot.