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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by K3hqZ, Sep 3, 2022.

  1. Sep 3, 2022 #1
    K3hqZ

    K3hqZ New Fapstronaut

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    I dont know what to do anymore... I have been on nofap for like 9 months now and i was felling the benifits coming until one and a half month ago when i completely relapsed by fapping 8 times in less than 12 hours after like 2 months of abstaining. Like, when i started all this i couldnt imagine that it would take me such a long time and an extreme amount of discipline to break such addiction... While the other addictions i had such as video games and junk food whould break first try. It may be because i am fairly 15 years old and my sperm production is going crazy but man i cant trust my own brain anymore, i am back to square 1.From that point i feel like my addiction is even stronger than before... 1.5 months have passed since then and it feels impossible to get past ten days.But all this time wasnt wasted... I have discovered many triggers and eliminated almost all of them. One last thing remains which is pretty much why i am stuck, when i enter the huge urge days (day 3 to 9 if i am correct) it feels impossible to concentrate on anything cause of the urges and as a result my brain convinces me to fap, the strange part here is that while i have observed this situation and i know when it occurs it drains a big amount of motivation to stay focused so eventually sooner or later i have no energy left to fight my own self so my brain convinces me to do it. Through daily meditation that i do i might learn how to let thoughts go but these sexual thoughts are still too strong to handle. Anyways it doesn't matter how hard it is i WILL find a way to break that addiction and i would be grateful if someone could give me advice and make my journey a bit easier.
     
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  2. Sep 5, 2022 #2
    Happy99.exe

    Happy99.exe New Fapstronaut

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    It's amazing that you've discovered the evil of this addiction this early in life. That's definitely going to be a huge advantage, as your brain is still super malleable and able to change habits more easily than one that is fully developed. I was your age when I started falling for this addiction, and didn't wake up to its negative effects until my mid 20's, yet I was still able to kick it. So if I can do it, you definitely can without a doubt.

    As far as advice goes, I'm obliged to respectfully suggest looking into the Orthodox Christian church to help define and qualify your spiritual practice since that is what ultimately healed me but that is simply a recommendation to look into it, I have no desire to push or convert anyone.

    Aside from that, you have the common advice of 'keep yourself busy' but I would add to that and say, keep yourself busy with rewarding and gratifying work. Go hunting for a job you like, start a hobby you are interested in (or continue one you already have) and set out to hit milestones with it (whether that means building a cool electronic device or getting your next belt in Jiu Jitsu, etc), something that allows you to regularly hit rewarding milestones. One example of this that helped me is a weightlifting program called Starting Strength. If you eat and rest enough between workouts you can consistently put 5 lbs on the bar each session. I was able to deadlift 300lbs by the end of month 3 - super rewarding! The goal here is to replace porn with other (actually) rewarding activities to help your brain find the dopamine elsewhere and fight against the porn-induced depression (i.e. "porn is so dopamine inducing everything else is depressing" syndrome) that we all know too well.

    Only other thing I can think of is try to find work that involves working with your hands, manual labor, being outside, anything that gets you off the screen and in the real world. This has the triple whammy effect of putting your pent up energy to good use, keeping you off the screen and keeping you socializing and spending time with people, which are all things that really help fight against this addiction.

    Best of luck, God bless

    PS: Almsgiving and donating your time to help others is also super rewarding, so volunteering somewhere like a soup kitchen or a nursing home or something could be a good addition to whatever activities you are doing / decide to do.
     
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