So i have a problem: I'm 37 and in the divorce process after 12yhrs of marriage. Porn caused ED was the main cause of split up... We have 8yhr old daughter After 40 or so days of nofap I've found a girlfriend. She is 29 and has 1,5 yhrs old dauther. So we are hanging out for about month and half now. We have clicked very well: she is very intelligent, willing to solve problems by conversation, never raises her voice, clean, likes sports and rides bike often, has superb body and in sexual aspect she satisfies my taste and is turned on by me being turned on by my nylon fetish. She is madly turned on by me and achieves orgasms without any problem, like normali is at least 3 ant that is with not so hard "flatline" penis. Problems are that I'm not so attracted to her face (my grade would be 6/10 without makeup, 7-8 when she uses it and she does regularly) and in general I don't feel aroused by her (maybe it's caused by the flatline). Second problem is that she wants intercourse only with condoms because she has fear of getting pregnant (pills are out of the question) and dislikes body fluids all together and also dislikes giving head (which I'm not huge fan of but somehow it makes me feel less attracted to her). She only likes sex and is willing to give me a lot of it... But she wants the serious relationship. She wants us to move in together because she is concerned that her child will not get the example of stable relationship if we would not live together. The another problem is my daughter: she is very territorial and feels threatened by her child because her child is still a baby so we all have to bend at least a little to her untrained will... so living together will definitely cause problems with kids, at least with mine, more so because she will become teenager soon so she will need more of her personal space... My vision of relationship after divorce was that I would have "fu*k friends", whose would not interfere with my time I have to spend with my daughter... and that is absolutely a no-go solution with my girlfriend, she conditions a stable 24/7 relationship So another choice came in a for of a former female work colleague I know for years and I have crush on. She is 55 and solo (and she is hot milf!) and I believe has a crush on me too but due my marriage and age difference we never tired anything although the sexual tension was there. I had instant turn of just by hearing her voice over the phone. She knows that I'm in the divorce and was very ok with it (like "finally" ok). So she wants us to go get a drink soon and I believe it's her probing "if I'm ready". She doesn't know I have girlfriend. So, what would you do in my place: 1. start a new life with GF and try to work things out with kids and stuff that bothers me 2. break up with GF and have milf F.Friend 3. your suggestion
If you're just getting out of a relationship/marriage and moving into another relationship that sounds like you are being pressured into (moving in), I suggest you figure out if you see yourself with this gf + child integrated in your life with your daughter for the long run. Moving in together is a big commitment, esp if you're still in the process of divorce and healing. This sounds especially troubling for your daughter, who should be your priority. That said, if sex is what you want, and space is what your crave, I say go with the MILF. explore your sexuality now that you're free. You're single, she is and you're at the peak of your sexual prime. That's just my two cents.
Yo . Be a fricking man. No offense but this might be why ur wife left u . Woman don't leave u just cuz of ED. They leave u cuz the ED makes ur other flaws more apparent. U have a nice woman who actually likes u despite ur flaws and frankly crap attitude. She wants to have sex and she patronizes ur fetish interest. And did u really just rate her face with or without make up. Bro either she is attractive to u or she isnt. And I would say she is given u have fcked her and u rate her over a 5. Ratings are bs. If there is something she can do to be more sexy for u , often u can nicely compliment certain things or suggest others. And she has a kid so not just that milf talk but also shes a mother. In regards to the oral, many women dont like to give oral. Thats normal. Women just want dick inside of em, very few of em actually like how it looks, smells or tastes etc ... just like orgasms u would be surprised how many women pretend to like oral. I got proper oral for the first time from my gf of 7 months this weekend and i realized i put it on a pedastle but really i didnt care that much about it. (By the way it probably bothers u she doesnt do it because u likely think its a form of acceptance/intimacy/devotion. Its not unless u make it that and if u do, u better be someone worth a high level of devotion.) It seems like u have found a good woman. One that doesnt bring that many flaws to the table. Ur divorced with a kid, f.friends will likely just bring u std's and drama. U have a shot with a nice woman. No matter who else ur with, u will see flaws and problems. U just need to ask urself what is your problem? Like what emotion is it in u that is making u think these things and whats the source of it? Is it ur divorce. Do you think u should be this wild single bachelor cuz it sounds cool? What? Im not trying to sound condescending or talk down to you. But be appreciative. Cuz if u dont appreciate her yet then maybe u should let her go find someone who cares about her. I have a gf and I enjoy her company a lot. This isnt my thoughts but let me point out to u how u must sound to nofap guys having a lot of trouble. "Boo-hoo! I have a hot young milf gf that enjoys my fetish, has sex with me often, doesnt want more kids and wants to be with me more but she isnt a 10 and I wanna go fck random chicks. What should I do?" I will just assume half of this is the traces of PMO talking. Sounds like u have another shot at a good relationship. Be a man, try and don't mess it up. Alternatively don't go sticking ur dick in other women before you shape up. Its irresponsible. Ur gf is smart to use condoms. There are other forms of birth control other than just the pill or condoms. Theres an app for ovulation cycles that tells u when is best times to have sex. And there is also spermicide creams and u can also do Karezza(sex where the purpose is not to O) and u can mix all those 3 and pull out as well just in case. Or do any mix of those. UR WELCOME! I mean it will take a few months of u being a man and a good bf for her to relax on the condoms, i mean she was recently pregnant, that mistake is fresh in her head so be sensitive. And batch ur tasks. Spend time with ur daughter and show her u can be a good father then maybe she wont think not having condoms isnt the worse thing.
Well I cannot run your life at the end you have to do whats best for you, working things out with your kids is a good start
My experience is the opposite. For not trying, you're pretty good at it. Wow, this is a big red flag. Wow, that's nice of her to use you like an object. Dang, sorry to say but you screwed that up by being a BF. And now you're on the verge of her interfering with your own daughter's time. Not only that, but you mention a lack of sexual arousal and attraction. From the book "His Needs, Her Needs", Sexual Fulfillment is #1 need for men, and "attractive wife" is #3. Go ahead and call me shallow, I'm not "just friends" or platonic with my romantic partners. If a woman isn't willing to satisfy my desires/fetishes (and vise versa) and keep herself in shape, then she's not GF material for me. ESPECIALLY when she has weird territory/threat issues as a parent. No f'ing way would I let a woman like that near my kids. "What would I do?" You can probably tell...
