If the fetish is a normal part of your psyche then trying to repress it or remove it may just cause more problems for you down the road. You also have to understand that you can be in a loving relationship and still engage in the kind of light bondage you obviously crave, as long as your partner wants it as well, there isnt really a problem here beyond the shame you seem to feel over it. I absolutely recommend NoFap to help purge the crueler aspects of this fetish, its obvious they are porn induced, but the base fetish is just a part of you, either act on it or dont, but dont feel ashamed for it, that will just mess you up psychologically.
I really don't want to come around as religion-hater or anything like that. I respect that people are religious. But what I don't understand is what is wrong with having sex in a bdsm setting when both do it in a safe, sane and consensual way? I think saying things like oh but in my religion it is bad or don't do that this is bad look at our religion doesn't help anyone at all. It just encourages sex shame and that is the dumbest shit on earth in my opinion because there is sooo much damage because of it. I don't want to open a new discussion about bdsm and religion, but when I hear stuff like that it makes me a little bit angry because in my opinion this doesn't bring our society further in terms of sexual tolerance and a more open society. In my opinion it will need another 10 or 20 years after bdsm is kind of normal in our society like homosexuality, but these archaic beliefs are holding us back. So again, don't want to blame anyone for there religious beliefs, just my 2 cents on your comment.
Fair enough. But Marcus is a Christian and asked for Christian advice. I don't think he (or I) can be charged with influencing society at large.
You cannot discriminate against people with a faith. For some, it is an important part of their recovery from addiction.
I honestly think you could be charged for that because everyone is part of the society and influences society. But anyways, do your thing. I tolerate it even though I don't like it.
As you think everyone is part of the society and influences society, you are doing so by saying: "these archaic beliefs are holding us back".
Touché. Great point. I like it. Yeah, anyways, let's end this discussion here. I'm not really interested in debating that here.
As a Christian woman w a SO who is into femdom type fetishes..I think depending on how things are incorporated depends on whether or not it is ok. Light playful bondage I don't think is bad at all. If you are both into the role play and respect and love each other then I think certain non hardcore things are okay. Blindfolds, handcuffs, light hair pulling and spanking can be arousing and playful instead of sadistic.
What's women's prison fetish? I've never came across that one. I have a rough feet fetish in mature women. (Women with stinky rough heels and soles) and a foot fetish period.
Wanting to be a guard in a women's prison. Conduct strip searches, hand out discipline, observe group showers etc. Frisk prisoners. Started by watching WIP (Women in Prison) movies from the 80s. Nudity mostly. Many of the actresses ironically worked on or eventually in soap operas.
Thanks for the reply. That is good to know. Regarding religion... IGY is correct. I am a Christian and so I said in my opening post that Christian advice is "especially welcome". I've never heard a fellow Christian speak about this, so I'm genuinely curious and their opinions will be especially relevant to me. That said, I will gladly listen to advice and opinions from people of any and all worldviews. The more voices, the better.
I have been into BDSM porn. I hate it bc I really like it, probaby the route of my addiction. I understand your enjoyment of gags and their voice. I guess that's why I've skates want bjs. I really like dominant roles/spanking in and out of bedroom. Probably my favorite genre. Wish I could use past tense on this though
Seeing this title got me really excited. Idk if there's something wrong with bdsm though. I think when you get into torture/dungeon porn it's weird, which I did lightly
Thanks for the reply, wethebest. What do you mean by "route of my addiction"? Did you like gags and things before you started watching porn or did porn lead you to liking bondage-related things? Do you mean sexually excited? I've noticed that I get a little sexually excited talking about bondage-related things on here. When I checked the message alert, I got excited when I realized it was for the bondage thread. Maybe I should stop writing about it... it almost seems like a p-sub at times. Yeah, I agree. I'm at the point where I think that, if I get married, I would like to incorporate some light bondage into our routine if possible, but I'm finished with the torture/dungeon side of things. I think I want the focus to be on vanilla stuff though. I do see my mind starting to drift more towards vanilla things during my reboot, but there's still that distinct excitement when I think about bondage. It's probably too early to say at this stage.
I just mean that's when I really got into and it killed my drive. Yes, sexually. And I'm trying to get me vanilla too. Not gags, but I've always been kinky (even before porn). Not gags or ropes, but like I still like when girls scratch my back up during sex or suck my bottom lip. I like holding their arms down and staring in their eyes during intercourse. But I only like it if they're into it. I'm low key nice people say depite my size, which can be intimidating. But I would never do something sexual if it made them really uncomfortable. My main porn issue was otk spankings and blowjobs with a little tied up and gags, with more recently master domination fantasies. But these issues weren't until after I developed a problem w porn. Therefore it's the root of the problem I believe (problem being social anxiety and PIED), spanking is the biggest one for me. It's fantasies were always playful, rarely forced spankings, but I still don't want it to control me.
My opinion is this, even as a Christian myself. If you and your mate agree and enjoy this and it is part of your sexual relationship. Then there is nothing wrong with it. As long as you both love each other and agree to it.
