Telling my wife tonight

Definitely a tough situation. I respect you for telling her you're doing the right thing.

Will she be mad? Probably. Porn is a real addiction but it's hard for people who haven't had to deal with it to accept that. Let her be mad at first, don't argue with her or tell her how tough you've had it, let her be mad and accept what she says to you initially.

I think she will probably appreciate the fact that you told her though. Marriage is about having no secrets and this is a big thing to admit to a partner. Instead of being like "I watch porn, sorry I don't want to anymore," try to turn this into something positive you guys can work through together as a team by saying "I have a problem, and I really need you to help me." If you go at it this way, presenting the situation as a desire to get better and promote reconciliation and togetherness and not just I'm sick and pathetic I think it will go better for you.

Either way I respect you and I'm glad your doing this.

 

If she got over catching you in the act after 5 hours, then I imagine she'll get over it if you voluntarily confess to her. It shows her you want to change. Hopefully she'll recognize it takes courage to face your addiction and confess it to her.

 

Honestly just do it. I told my friends and they just accepted it. She will. Just don't overthink it. Think about how great you'll feel to get it off your chest think about how it will go right. And tell her your on day 30 to day 29 i mean its not a complete month (jk).

Just go with it you'll find the best way to tell her. And if she's even half the person you know she'll understand she may need some time or she may even know and be thrilled to hear that you are fighting it. But think positive and only positive. Good luck man

 

It is WONDERFUL that you told her. Very brave as well. Now she knows she can trust you a little more.
The worse feeling is finding out those kind of secrets instead of your lover just telling you.

 

The fact that you are telling your wife is a huge step in the right direction. She will be mad no doubt but she will also be happy in a weird way that you told her and she didn't find out on her own.

 

It's been a few weeks. How are things between you going now? Has telling her made it easier for you to avoid slipping?

 

I admire you for this. That takes a lot of courage. Good luck man!

 

I really wouldn't tell her it's been six months...I might be too late, I just saw this...but that would be hard for me to get over...you're not really telling her, you enjoyed yourself for six months first and are just now bringing it up...so once again she gave you the benefit of the doubt and once again has to feel stupid for trusting you...why didn't you tell her as soon as you got the urges? I thought I had the perfect relationship and marriage until I found this out...the second time around is becoming a deal breaker for me..so just saying, I would have told her up front...don't lie if she asks but I would just say-I'm getting urges again and go from there... Not hey I've basically been going behind your back again for the past six months.