Telling friends and family about my addiction

I wouldn't tell them, generally nobody wants to know what you do with your nut in your privacy. You have a community here that understands you and doesn't judge you.

 

My brothers know, though I've never mentioned it to my parents. My brothers don't ask about its really only brought up if I bring it up. Some day I plan tell my parents. More for openness sake than anything.

 

Yeah. That's too much info as far as I'm concerned. I don't understand how telling everyone would help anyone abstain from PMO?

 

Not anyone’s place to judge. We all have our virtues and vices. Tell them if you want, but if they condemn you rather than help you, it says more about them than about you.

 

I told four friends and asked them to be accountability partners on the app Ever Accountable. So far so good. I'd be too ashamed to browse P knowing that will then see all of the disgusting stuff I used to watch.

 

This.

It's too anxious to tell my parents and friends in reality about my addiction.

 

Wait a bit before you do. Hang out with us for awhile first.

 

Hah. Here we go again. Sure you can tell them. However be resolved to lose their respect if you do.
Why not look for an AP here on this forum, they will probably be more dedicated, know my about what you are going through and will be able to give better advice etc...
Honestly, I do not see anything to gain by telling family or friends.

 

I do agree that seeking outside help is a good idea before letting family (or friends) know as at this point in time it's not something they'd likely understand. Coming generations may be a different story. Get comfortable with people you can actually talk about the subject with. This is especially true if one doesn't have much a life outside of family. Always a good idea to build up connections elsewhere. Even when bringing up the topic one doesn't need to go into the deep and gritty details. Sometimes simply letting them know we are dealing with an issue is enough.

 

I was definitely ready to lose my friends' esteem, and I surely probably lost the esteem of a couple. But my addiction is too bad to care about losing even my best friends. They all accepted to be my APs but I am sure they do not even check my reports. I don't blame them, it is probably embarrassing for them to check my Internet history.

BUT, in the long run, they will see that I was strong enough to overcome the P addiction scourge and stick to my word. So the esteem I may have lost will probably be regained (and I'm sure a couple of them feel embarrassed because they are addicted to P themselves and are feeling bad to see me go to such extremes to free myself from the grasp of the P filth). I also would be too ashamed if they saw what kind of stuff I watch online so knowing they have access to everything I do on my phone/computer at any time is a HUGE motivator to not watch P. In fact, it's not even an option.

I would never tell my family however.

 

Which kind of program are you using for that?

 

How are your parents? Are they loving, supportive and trusting? If so then yes tell them. Open, honesty, love and trust will help you more than any virtual community will.

 

I have never disclosed to anyone else about it (other than when my wife discovered some of my P viewing many years ago for which we went to counseling) but, and I'm sorry to say, my P usage did not end there. I've never talked about other aspects of my SA and MB addiction, etc. with my wife nor anyone else for that matter. This is probably wrong. I've read good things from people who have disclosed, have worked with their spouses, and it helped with achieving sobriety and at the same time strengthened marital relations. Significant others - GF, spouses, etc. really have a right to know about our addictions so that they can make their decisions whether or not they want to be with someone who deals with these issues. So don't do as I do, do as I say - for what it's worth. I think it's important, based on everything I've ever read about dealing with SA, to at least disclose to one other person with whom you can confide in.

 

The only person I would probably tell would be a girl I'm dating and if the relationship was serious. Other than that, I doubt I'll ever tell my folks about what I'm going through. If anything, I'd just tell them I think no human being should watch porn at all and why I think that.