Taking risks

I have heard that it's good to take risks and be yourself when trying to get a girl to like you. I believe that's true. Its never a problem for me except for with my crush. Probably because shes the only person whose perception of me I care about lol. Shes kind of conservative and I'm not entirely sure what her sense of humor is. But I texted her today and she mentioned that she wished we had today off since it's presidents day. I replied that I agreed because presidents day is the only day I feel justified watching Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter. She has not responded at all to that in hours and probably won't tonight.

Idk hard to strike a balance and she's really hard to read. I have to draw the line somewhere and not say dumb stuff but not taking a risk is taking a risk too. I don't want her to think I'm boring. She takes a long time to respond to my texts but is always enthusiastic and seems interested in me when she finally does. I don't want to read too much into things but like I said I can never tell with her.

 

I really appreciate this advice. It accurately identifies and responds to the exact situation I'm in. It's not news to me, it's just been hard to execute. I never feel like I'm not being myself or am trying to hide things, but I do really want her to like me. And whether or not she responds can make me really happy or really sad.

This is something weird that I haven't mentioned but partly explains why I might feel this way: I want to be like her. She is smart, hardworking, highly involved, and successful. I want to be able to say the same things about myself. I don't think it's unhealthy to imitate her positive attributes and it has helped me learn about myself in some ways. She really motivates me. I've had a crush on her for years. She was one of the main reasons I decided to do nofap. It's really hard for me to think about anyone else.

But you are right. Things can still work out and this can have a happy ending (things seem to be heading that way which is great) However I need to meet other girls too. It's a mistake to be this focused on someone and I need to broaden my horizons. I think I'm going to start doing some cold approaches to get some practice. Maybe my mind will change, but I have struggled to be interested in anyone else while I still have a chance with this girl. Even still, talking to more girls can't hurt so that's what I'm going to start doing.

 

Thanks for this advice I have already been following it (she often takes awhile to respond) and on the rare occasion that I do double text her, I give it at least a few days and never reference the previous conversation.

It seems like we know each other pretty well though. Idk if she is purposely testing me or not. She is always super cool and seems interested in me except this leaving me hanging thing. She is super straightforward though and all our mutual friends have told me that she will let me know if she's not interested. Maybe she is testing me though... If she's trying to get inside my head it's working lol.

So my plan is to text her Friday (3 days after my last message) because I'm making salmon and that's her favorite food and I want to send her a picture. Is that a good idea or should I wait for her to text me?

 

This is good advice but doesn't apply to my situation. I don't like texting and would much rather be able to see her. Not to get into too much detail but we go to different colleges hours away and neither of us have our own place. I'm just curious if it's in my best interest to start a new conversation with her in a couple days. I don't see why not, that's what I plan to do.

 

I meant that I'm cooking salmon and was just going to send her a picture of it just because she likes salmon and get a convo going. We can't meet up for awhile. I'd love to cook for her one day but I can't really arrange that yet.

I have been making plans and executing them and that has gotten me this far. I have to do something. I don't want to come on too strong but I have to keep her interested and let her know I like her. I'm going to text her over the next few days and arrange a date for when she comes home for spring break.

 

I texted her last night she texted back a couple times and it went well. Then hours of silence before I got a text at two o'clock in the morning. Wtf? Then I texted her when I woke up (with a question) and it's been hours without a response.

Impossible to read this girl. Surely she has to see these texts and is just waiting a long time to respond? No idea but idk how to interpret this sporadic text pattern. No rhyme or reason and I can't explain it. When she does text it's always good though so I'm just going to stick with it. I have been told and I have read that if a girl likes you she will respond asap. And this is not the type of girl that likes to play games. Maybe she is just nocturnal or something lol

 

Thanks for these responses I didn't get any notifications for some reason. I'm done worrying about it. Either she likes me or she doesn't. No more being paranoid and overanalyzing everything. I've been super dramatic about this is because I'm crazy about this girl and there's not a whole lot going on in my life. I'm over this.

We texted all weekend and she gave me a heavy hint by saying "I'm free at x time" so I was able to ask her out and get a yes.