Strong urge to FAP, What should I do?

You best thing you can do mentally is acknowledge the urge. It's normal to have sexual urge your a men. And physically just leave what ever situation your in, for me music seems to get my mind of things.

 

Say to your self aloud "I have the urges to masterbate" then listen your voice then decides if you should give in or not. I was having the same urges n that's what I did. Like 5min ago I said it aloud, I told myself I want to have a wife n kids that's my motivation. I didn't have to fight the urges because having sexual urges is a god given gift. Just like if somebody gaved you a Ferrari it's a gift n you must learn how to control or it can kill you.

 

What you are experiencing is normal. The urges can get really strong around now and until around 25 days. You have to just push trough it sometimes. It will get easier once you manage to white knuckle trough the urges a few times.

 

Just think about how silly u will feel afterward if u fap. It's just a test.U will have a million more of them and each time ur tested just smile knowing ur just that much closer toward ur goal. It's never worth giving in

 

Yes it's a normal! Your body is trying to go back to normal, dude there's more of those urges and even stronger one that's going to come. You have to train yourself to acknowledge it, that's what I'm doing now. It's not easy i know. But the more you do it the easier it becomes

 

Recognize that this is a psychological urge not an actual physical need, since your penis is not erect. I compare this to someone being on a diet who experiences food cravings but is not hungry. You want to eat pizza or chocolate because your brain tells you it will make you feel better, it has before. But your body does not need the food. Being able to recognize the difference between a physical need and a psychological craving really goes a long way. Most people with a porn/masturbation addiction do not engage in the behavior due to a sexual need. It may have started that way, but it does not stay that way. So you begin to associate sexual pleasure as a means to cope with feelings you do not want to feel, or just to feel better. But that's not what the purpose of sex is. It is sharing and intimacy with a partner. Just like the purpose of eating is to fuel your body not to cope with feelings or enjoy the taste of food. That's not to say that some people cannot eat chocolate cake and have a healthy relationship with it. But if once you start eating chocolate cake you are unable to stop then you need to avoid it all together. Likewise if eating chocolate cake effects your life negatively say you now have diabetes then you need to stop. So if you cannot stop engaging in PMO once you start you need to avoid it. And if engaging in PMO is having negative effects on your life, like you now have ED or you are struggling in relationships or at life then you need to stop. There are many people that don't have issues with porn and masturbation, they do it on occasion but have no effects, for whatever reason you are not one of those people. Sometimes that's hard to accept and seems really unfair but accepting it and becoming self aware will change your life. Everybody is born with different brain chemistry and some people are more prone to addiction. It's not your fault that you were born this way, but you can fight it. Just like even if your parents had diabetes and you are more prone to it, you can manage to avoid it with exercise and diet. Most cravings disappear within 15-30 seconds if you redirect your mind, I learned that while dieting. I had a doctor suggest wearing a rubber band on your wrist and anytime you had a food craving snap it enough to sting. That snapped your mind right out of it because it switched to the pain, and totally forgot about the craving. It also made your mind associate over eating with pain. Not sure if this will work to fight PMO but whatever you need to do to redirect do it. It will get easier.

 

Try going out for a jog, just jogging for 10 mins drains much of that sexual energy and as a complimentary gift it tones up the legs as well

 

Same Bro! I have the same problem like you but I can't tell you waht to do... Stay strong!!