Stop watching porn and masturbating (beginning)

Hello there,

im new to this forum. I normaly speak german, but the german part oft this forum is pretty dead, so i want to try it here in the english speaking section.

I think to understand my situation, i have to tell some things from the past. Last year my gf and i broke up. it wasnt easy for me. We were togehter for about 10 years. (im 28 now).
I felt lonely and littl depressed, so i watched porn and masturbated a lot. Some weeks after the break up i still was not ready for something like a relationship. because i was depressed i had not the energy to meet new people, but i was horny as fuck. So i dicedet to a brothel. This was the easyiest an fastest way to get some sex. I normaly went each 2 weeks there. i looket on the websites and it was something like a ritual. find a lady, and then visit her.

in general i masturbatet also a lot. saw something that made me horny.... masturbate. Got stressed a lot... masturbate when come home. For this i watched some videos and tried to jerk off as fast as possible, just to cum and everything was fine. I did this 1-3 times a day.

so now im back togehter with my gf some weeks. Because we live seperated now and both go to work (shift work) we have sex all 2-3 weeks.
sometimes planned and sometimes randomly.

now i have to struggle with some thoughts like "we need to have more sex, other couples also have more", "why do we have so less sex" and so on.
The last 2-3 days im thinking much about the fact that i dont have morning erections often. I also have some troubles to stay hard. (when masturbating and having sex.)

I have problems staying hard while having sex when i lay down and she does the work. i have many thoughs over different things. and also be afraid that the errection wont stay. Otherside if i do the work or she wakes me up from the sleep with sexual activities, i have no problems whit the erection.

so i dont thinkt it is a physical problem. i think it's because in the last few months the goal was not erection or sex, but quick orgasm.

long story short.

on the occasion of the no nut november i would like to start to stop my porn consumption and masturbation as far as possible.
I hope through abstinence the excitement comes back.
So starting today I will abstain from pronos and masturbation. (not form sex with my gf)

My last orgasm was on 27.10. Last time I watched porn and masturbated (without orgasm) was on 29.10.2023.

I will keep you up to date.

P.S. sorry for my English, my native language is German