This is my first time ever posting on the forum to forgive me if I fail to follow or respect some sort of decorum but I'm just going to tell you a little bit about my story and I'd appreciate any insight, tips, suggestions, or words of encouragement. I'm 19 years old and a sophomore in college and for 2 years (16-18) I had a steady relationship with a girl who later ended up cheating on me. I broke up with her and dealt with all of the problems that come with that, but following the relationship I would just PMO and didn't think anything of it, I was having steady sex and performing well before so I didn't realize it would ever become a problem. Months and months come and go and I've found myself fapping everyday once to even three times a day and it left me without any joy in doing it and found it to be a chore. Then, if I ever had an encounter with another female I would have the hardest time getting it up and I was baffled as to why... I was fine before and now I'm not and I just decided that it must be performance anxiety. Until I came across an Instagram post that described low testosterone can be a result of too much PMO and I stumbled across this forum. I've decided to give it a shot, today is my first day and I plan on hard rebooting for at least 120 days and see where it leaves me. My only questions are; if I do find myself in a situation with a girl and have the opportunity for intercourse, is that still a possibility even though I am trying to hard reboot? Also; it is an extremely commonly asked question but bare with me; how long until I feel like I'm a man again. It's such a grim way to put it but that's truly how I feel when I can't perform, I feel like I'm not man enough to please a girl and it hurts my masculinity. I was a slave to addiction for a long time and often so I'm just curious. Perhaps seeing the light at the end of the tunnel will give me motivation. Thanks for much for reading, -Hands Closed
Hi, I think that it's the best for you to abstain from O for a longer period of time to get your brain back to normal. Then it's welcomed. But I'm not a pro, so... I can't really tell you, it depends on. For example, I'm on my 8th day of reboot (2nd try after 6 days followed by relapse) and now I can already feel that I enjoy everything more and I'm more confident and other positive changes. The longer you keep going, the better results you'll get. Good luck.
