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started from the bottom now we are here hey everyone

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by buddy love, Dec 13, 2015.

when people first started to quit did you stop completely or gradually stop

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  2. stopped completely (cold turkey)

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  1. Dec 13, 2015 #1
    buddy love

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    hey guys or fellow fapstronauts im so glad i found this forum for likeminded people such as myself i just thought i should share my struggles so far and what i plan to do in the near future



    i want to stop masturbating i want to live a more enjoyable fap free life its gotten to a stage where faping isn't fun its just a daily habit that im sort of like saying to myself in my head "okay its that time again lets get this over with i need to get to sleep soon " its becoming a horrible part of my daily live

    i had 61 gb of porn on my laptop thats how bad it was ...


    i want to destroy it i want to get a girlfriend and become more attracted to women i sometimes find that i have this anxiety to even go and talk to women that im attracted to and i go home after a night at the club and feel shit because i didn't get with any girls and i keep beating myself up about it and i feel that fapping is a direct result of it its like a crutch for not talking to women its something i can always do

    but not any more i want to walk into a club and have red eyes and have this crazy look about me with my hands shaking because i haven't fapped for so long that i will be gagging to talk to women and want to get with them haha sorry that sounds bad i don't view women differently or less just that i want to get with women but i feel fapping is telling my mind and body that i don't need to approach women because i can fall back on faping i hope you can understand

    i will remove faping from my life slowely but surely i feel its just about breaking the habit and after that it will be okay

    this is my plan :
    i will not masturbate for 2 weeks to start and when i do fap it wont be a quick internet video fap it will be a slow and sensual fap with just my mind and then i will add another 2 weeks onto that until i feel the point that i will not need to do it again

    if you guys have any tips or support please feel free to pm me i would appreciate it
     
    buddy love, Dec 13, 2015
    buddy love, Dec 13, 2015
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  2. Dec 13, 2015 #2
    Divine

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    Nope, don't fap for 2 weeks and still don't fap. Don't rationalize and make any excuses.

    You are a failure, and you will continue to be a lonely failure until the day you die. Unless..

    You do not masturbate. Bring the real you to the surface of your skin. He has been drowning in your sorrow.

    But, welcome to NoFap. You came to the right place. We're glad ya here!

    This is where life will start to get better. But it will have to get worse, before it gets better.

    I suggest you download K9 porn blocker. And you need to learn to control yourself, the mindset is the most important thing.
    Be provocative, and blunt to yourself.. because that's the only way you will beat this. Good luck, bro. :)
     
    Divine, Dec 13, 2015
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  3. Dec 13, 2015 #3
    nfprogress

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    I wouldn't want to get in the way of a man and his goals to get laid, but for the duration of your reboot, it might be better let those thoughts of the endgame pass lest you build up urges unnecessarily.

    Telling yourself that you will wait two weeks and then fap to fantasy is your mind playing tricks on you. Same thing happened to me and I rationalized that I was going to MO at the 30 days mark. Thank goodness I came to my senses without having come to any other conclusions.

    I know you didn't mean it literally, but I wouldn't walk into that club again until I felt completely in control of myself. Trust me the women will know the difference. I always vote cold turkey when these polls come around because I think it is the most efficient and effective method.

    It is definitely possible to succeed with MO included (not hardmode), but you should be careful. The chaser effect has set back many a fapstronauts and caught many more at unawares. Mentally it seems like the right thing to do. I know, but that is your second brain talking and it is paradoxically easier to avoid all the temptation. You have the right idea that this is about breaking the habit, it is gradual, takes time, and it will get easier.
     
    nfprogress, Dec 13, 2015
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  4. Dec 14, 2015 #4
    buddy love

    buddy love New Fapstronaut

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    thanks hahaha it was only a joke i don't actually want red eyes i just want be feel like i have to talk to women because there is no other option i was just trying to be funny :) thanks for the support
     
    buddy love, Dec 14, 2015
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  5. Dec 14, 2015 #5
    buddy love

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    i am very good at stopping i did nofap November 30 days without faping i can do this the only reason i think coming down gradually is because thats how i gave up smoking i came down gradually every time i tried to go cold turkey i couldn't handle it so i think i will come down gradually
     
    buddy love, Dec 14, 2015
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