Stanford marshmallow experiment

For those who don't know the experiment they take little kids and give them the option of eating a marshmallow now or waiting a few minutes and eating two marshmallows later. They go on to conclude the kids who can delay gratification do better in life. NoFap is essentially giving up marshmallows altogether. My struggle in this NoFap path is accepting the loss of the marshmallow. Clearly we all have been told the harm of our past behaviors and we've been told all the good things that are supposed to happen when we give up PMO but we all struggle. We all want that good feeling we've experienced at times with PMO. I've recently found semen retention has led to non ejaculatory orgasms. These occur in the middle of the night for me and are not related to sexual thoughts or masturbation. I've questioned the group and have received different responses regarding whether this experience is good or not. Makes me a little sad we have to second guess our experience of pleasure so much. Are we all wounded or might it be we all are more sensitive to the pleasure response? Ironically I would have been the kid who waited for the two marshmallows. My friends, who don't know of my struggles with PMO, would tell me I've succeeded in life in all ways and yet I always feel like I need just one more marshmallow and I'll be ok, but ok never quite comes.

 

I haven't seen a 500+ days before. Any secrets you have to share? Most of the time I am good with the stuff I put in motion but once in awhile I'll something will set me off ( an ad on the side of the screen, a woman in a revealing bathing suit, etc. ) There is definitely a voice in my head that is different from the NoFap voice that once it starts to control the process it doesn't matter what I've decided I'm going to do, it seduces me with its perspective.

 

Thanks. Yes, I am getting help from a counselor and know what you mean about it not being easy. I have been finding some of the "super powers" associated with semen retention have given me some hope I can get thru it this time.

 

If you've made it 449 day (and nights I presume), you must know the answer to your own question. I don't believe there is away to completely avoid being overwhelmed by the sexual urge. I believe the strategies people suggest help reduce the horniness but you have to develop strategies to get you thru. Given I've only made it a few months I will defer to others to share their wisdom