Someone triggered my anxiety...

That person is full of horse-shit.

Don't listen to people like him/her!

 

I bet it's "dilemma nelly and kelly" like this user which sounds familiar: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/i-think-im-going-crazy-please-help.357487/#post-3753188

 

What are u on about my man, first of all why are u listening to songs with moaning sounds , u are a porn addict seems to me that you are just looking for porn substitutes

 

In my opinion, we all need our own definition of what constitutes a relapse. A relapse is not everything that releases dopamine. Thinking that way will drive you crazy and as you said mentally fatigue you. I like to work out at the gym, and a workout releases dopamine, so I guess I relapse every day when i go to the gym. I guess if you go to a party for a friend, that is a relapse too? Maybe you do a good job at work and get a bonus, that would release dopamine, so I guess that is a relapse too. My point is don't listen to anyone, just figure out what is the best thing for you and follow that path.

 

There is a difference between working out and listening to moaning sounds

 

U have to do the separation between things that trigger u. If some songs make u triggered so stop listening to them... If some movies make u triggered so stop watching those movies... It's an individual experience - things that make people triggered not necessarily would trigger others... There is a good dopamine and bad dopamine... Listen to music, eating tasty food, going to the gym all are activities that make u release dopamine... Of course eating a lot of chocolate and sugar for example is bad but if u enjoy from other types of food it's okay... The bottom line is that u need to define for yourself what is good and what is bad. BTW there are activities that probably always going to be good for u like get in shape, sports, eating healthy, socialize (in a good way means meeting new people and develop connections and self confidence).

 

Just my opinion, you are stressing way too much about what a relapse is. You are going to drive yourself insane thinking everything is a relapse. A grunt or a moan in a song is not a relapse. This is of course assuming that you hear the grunt it is not triggering you to watch porn.

I think part of the problem might be the way people are interpreting what you wrote in a couple of different ways:
1. I think some people are assuming you hear the grunting or moaning in the song and it's triggering you to go watch porn.
2. I'm reading your post and thinking you are just enjoying the song, maybe singing along with it, and not having a 2nd thought about the grunt or moan.

I think you need to define a relapse for yourself and not worry what anyone else tells you. Using myself as an example, i initially defined a relapse as anytime i actively seek out and watch porn or pay for cam sites. Of course I found a loophole and started doing online sex chats, so i had to start including that a relapse. Anything else for me is not a relapse. I go to the gym and look at an attractive girl, not a relapse. I'm watching a movie on Netflix and there is a sex scene, not a relapse. I hear a grunt or a moan in a song, not a relapse. For example right now the song I am listening to a lyric is "you got another thing coming" repeated several times. But "coming" could be a sex term. This is in no way a relapse.