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Somebody help me save my RELATIONSHIP!

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by raven00, Jan 1, 2024.

  1. raven00

    raven00 Fapstronaut

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    I have read about the effects that comes with healing; the anxiety, depression, mood swing. I am currently at the grip of emotional turmoil. At a moment I’m laughing, at the next I’m so angry with myself. This is eating into my relationship. I can’t afford to lose her. I decided to break my past addiction secret to my girlfriend and let her know it after I ghosted her for more than 24 hours for absolutely no sound reason. I have had no feed back from her yet; she must really be pissed off. Please what do I do to save this relationship
     
  2. HealingBodyandMind

    HealingBodyandMind Fapstronaut

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    How long have you been dating her?

    what exactly did you tell her? Give us more details, so we can give you better advice
     
  3. raven00

    raven00 Fapstronaut

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    We’ve been together for 6 months. I met her when I had actively started my recovery steps. But then my sudden change of mood and this withdrawal feeling started to intrude. I can go a whole day without even a text to her. And it hurt her so much. So I yesterday, decided to let her know what’s up with me, what I’m dealing with as an addict who’s trying to quit and how the effects have got me on the hook. Since then she has gone silent on me
     
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  4. Hpy

    Hpy Fapstronaut

    How old are you, 23? What did you tell her, was it comforting or frightening? I give substance to in the following paragraphs, it is something I would do: It's important to realize that something (porn) that has been ordinary and of daily practice for you, has always been a secret to her. It's something she never knew about, it can overwhelm her in all kinds of emotions. If it is the case, try to comfort her. Tell her it is going to be okay, it is something you are working on -that her support would really help you- and that together you can get through this. Something cheesy like that.

    I understand you can go a while without texting her under the mood change conditions, sometimes the same occurs for me. But, do not make her part of the problem I guess? Do not force it upon her. If she loves you and is supportive, she'll help you (considering pornography doesn't go against her cultural morals, you cheated on her with porn or anything in that matter).
     
  5. raven00

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    22. Will be 23 this year. I didn’t frighten her with it. I explained it to her how l and when it started and how far I’ve come with my recovery. I made sure of that because I know her to be very emotional. I literally give her bad day when I go off. She can have all the time to process her thoughts; it’s much for her to take in.
     
  6. HealingBodyandMind

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    Let us know what happens OP!

    maybe she is just emotionally processing the information or however girls need to function in day to day society

    I hope it works out for you both!
     
  7. raven00

    raven00 Fapstronaut

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    She came around. She’s willing to help so far us I’m ready to be opened and hide nothing from her.
     
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  8. onceaking

    onceaking Fapstronaut

    What do you mean by help? It's not down to her, only you can beat the addiction.
     
  9. raven00

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    I’m actually at the point of recovery where I’m dealing with quite a number of psychological distresses. She’s willing to help by understanding and believing in me that I can do it.
     
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