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Some Understandings

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by bomonti, Mar 19, 2016.

  1. Mar 19, 2016 #1
    bomonti

    bomonti Fapstronaut

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    Hey Forum!
    I wanna tell you guys that after honesty to ourselves which is the first step, we need understanding as the next step. After You become honest to yourself, everything is easier. The hardest part is being honest. All that relapses before reaching our goals which seems 90days at least on paper, THEY DON'T MATTER!!! All that process is literally ''being honest with yourself''. So in reality you are not relapsing to reaching 90 days, you are trying to be honest. After you become honest to yourself by the way I believe it's not something time-related but it is about your mindset, the first understanding you have got is that Porn is not a normal thing. The habit of coming back to home and masturbate to porn after a good or bad or medicore day at school or work is not helpful. It's not helping you. We all know that it is common. But common is not equal to normal. I am tired now, I will try to write more about this later. This forum is a great place by the way. I love you guys all. Take it easy...
     
    bomonti, Mar 19, 2016
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  2. Mar 19, 2016 #2
    DannyCool

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    Love it. Well written.
     
    DannyCool, Mar 19, 2016
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  3. Mar 19, 2016 #3
    shoji

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    Thanks for posting this. I've noticed the whole reboot process has been affecting the way I think, for the better!

    I've edged a couple times so far in my reboot. One time I caught myself looking at sketchy pop ups (girls undressing, about to M on camera) and found myself disgusted by it instead of being turned on. I closed the screen and walked away from my computer within seconds. I won't lie... fantasizing about sex still turns me on; it's something I want to experience IRL, not wanking off in front of a screen. I don't have any desire to watch P anymore.

    The deeper issue for me and my struggle with PMO is to be intimate and in a loving relationship with a girl. Though sex is a way to physically express that, I know now I can't get those deeper desires fulfilled by watching porn. My mind fooled me for years into thinking that it could.

    Onward and upward.
     
    shoji, Mar 19, 2016
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