Should we use dating apps?

Dating sites work you just need to know the right ones to use. And you have to understand that the results are not always going to happen quickly. It’s a numbers game I know everyone says this but it’s true. Don’t give up after a few rejections eventually you will succeed. POF is kinda meh these days. A lot of time wasters and bots. Try some paid sites like Match.com. If it’s paid then the girls on there are more serious about meeting people. Tinder is a rollercoaster but you can get results I have.

DM me if you want to know the apps I had good success with. Try doing approaches too as well as using the online dating. In my opinion I would not go 100% approach without apps to begin with because that causes high anxiety. And when your trying to avoid PMO this can cause more frustration when nothing happens. Easier with the apps that’s the way people are used to meeting these days. Forever glued to their phones...

 

If you're looking for a "normal happy relationship", I wouldn't do any sort of "numbers game" in the first place. Do you really want to reduce your potential partner to a statistical outcome? Instead, go for a woman you really like inside and out, one you already know a little bit may be, ask her out and you will have a normal and fulfilling date, which you can then build upon. Women who are friends of friends or whom you've already known for a while are the best choice in my opinion. In the latter case, you need to make sure not to come off as a creep, of course. But it is possible; I once just felt like texting a woman from my sports course I hadn't visited for months, we had a quick chat, I asked her out and we had a date. Dating has to be simple to work.

But you will get a lot of different opinions here. Just make sure you make the right choice for yourself. It is not about whether "we" should use dating apps, but whether "you" should use them.

 

When I said numbers game I didn’t mean picking up lots of phone numbers. I meant meeting as many people as possible, being open to all opportunities. When you are actively talking to lots of people your social skills improve, you become more outgoing. And you increase the likelihood that one of those girls turns into a fulfilling relationship with a good experience. Because your energy changes it makes you more sociable and attractive. Easier than limiting yourself to a small group when really you can meet people everywhere in my opinion.

Staying inside your comfort zone will not help with the anxiety. You have to put yourself out there and be open to meeting people everywhere.

 

Can't remember where i read this, but it was like "your girl, your precious soul, your best person won't be waiting for you on any dating sites; instead you should become a better version of yourself and then you will meet the girl of your dream just right on time"
In case you want to build great enjoyable relationships

 

Yeah, you are right in a few ways there; moreover, I misunderstood you insofar as I thought you referred the "numbers game" to dating sites only... But still, meeting new people all the time isn't for everyone. An introvert might not like that prospect; of course he would benefit from leaving his comfort zone and getting rid of his social anxiety... But may be, even after doing that, he still feels that meeting people all the time just isn't for him and that he has better stuff to do, because it just doesn't align with his personality.

 

if u just want sex don't see why not!

 

I personally wouldn't, but it's a personal thing that you've got reasons for. The one thing I could advise is that you evaluate whether using a dating service will honestly help you in a positive way. If it does, I see no reason not to.

 

Didn't work for me. Had a couple of matches but no girl even replied to my messages so I got even more frustrated and it triggered me much more than I would have expected.