I had a nice steek going and I relapesd twice. I know evry time you resist even the smallest of sexual urge you are rewriting. I had a concept that if I resist urges for long enough and have a nice streek going that I would then be able to relapse to have an easier time getting to that same number of days. I want to know if that is true or am I just making myself adicted again.
I have tried this several times but it doesn't work that way unfortunately. When you relapse, chaser can be strong enough to make you binge and bring you back to square one. Best way is to never relapse at all.
Chaser is a big deal, don't underestimate it, I've messed up big in the past because of it. Stay focused, don't get ahead of yourself. You have one job! Don't PMO.
Totally agree: If you relapse, the probability is far higher, that you relapse again. (Chaser is one reason, another is that your brain just stores this as a habbit, the more often you repeat it. I read this somewhere on the question if it's ok to relapse deliberately/as a reward) One reset/relapse often leads to another, I saw it myself. That's the main problem with the "light" approaches, where you allow yourself to (P)MO once a week or so ...
I have a habit of pinching my ears, which hurts a lot when i have an urge. Pain kills arousal for me. Haven´t had any major urges since day 2 and I am on day 5 now.
Urges will always be there. Each person has to work out their own management strategy. For me it was a battle, war actually, for the first 2 weeks. Now I just let the urges kinda come in and go out, like the tide. The random ones calm down after a while and you can adjust how strongly you deal with them. It's a learn as you go kinda thing.