Should I make a tinder to meet people? Or is it a P sub?

I would say that it is important to focus on a life away from PMO. Dates are surely a much better choice to focus on, especially when an evening of PMO is the other option. So make that date brother. But be wary of inner PMO voices if it doesn't go your way.

 

And congrats on your resolve. Keep up the struggle good brother.

 

What do you do in life that allows you to connect with others? To contribute and participate in a community? To build rapport with people that you share struggles and victories with?

If you don't have something like that in order to develop healthy relationships, then maybe you should reflect on your lifestyle more.

People like to say tinder, approaching random women at random places, or going to bars... but for most people those things aren't really activities they would be doing for fun on their own. When you're part of a community, you're able to interact people on a deeper level and screen people better.

 

I was considering using Tinder myself, but can't quite bring myself to joining up. I am fighting the PMO but am content to catch up with friends at the moment. Im kicking any planned dates down the line for now. But I know I will have to take that punt eventually. Well done on your resilience and resolve brother.

 

I have friends who met one another on Tinder and are now happily married. There's a lot of value in using dating Apps because it's about meeting real people. You do want to meet real people and that isn't a P-sub.

 

ok you're bringing up an interesting point. I'm too old to really know how these apps work, but I assume there's a lot more screen & "chat" time than actually meeting.

It sounds as if the actual App usage has big potential to be a p-sub. The actual dates would not. Do you find yourself getting aroused by the pictures of the girls on the app? By the conversations? Fantasizing about when you meet them? If so, you'll need to make some adjustments. Recognizing the danger is part of it.

What do you think @Kman20 ? I don't want to create trouble but it sounds like you'll need some discipline if you're going to make the dating apps work for you. That's all.

 

Maybe if you're a Turbo Chad, but also these girls may have a higher likelihood of having herpes. So if you're okay with the herp I guess.

 

Be careful. Make sure you keep it at chit-chat with no images. Try to meet up rather than waste time talking on text.

 

no problem at all!

 

I can relate to this. Last night actually some girl started sending me pictures on bumble which I thought was weird. I didn't watch porn or anything like that however it definitely is a slippery slop for me because stuff like that can easily send me in the wrong direction. It definitely leaves me the next day feeling a bit weird and my thoughts probably are not as pure as they could have been. That being said, I do use dating sites to meet people however just letting you know that type of stuff is out there

 

Lol. I agree to that, definitely do.

 

There are plenty of good dating apps out there. If you are serious about making friends and meeting people then don’t limit yourself to just Tinder. Think of dating apps like virtual bars. Each one has a different crowd. You can be in multiple bars at the same time increasing the likelihood that you meet the right person for you.