Sexually frustrated and don't know what to do about it

A healthy romantic relationship is about being with a person you connect with on an emotional level. It's being in love with your best friend. The sexual need in such a relationship comes from a need to feel close to them through physical intimacy (apart from having a biological sexual drive). I don't think you really need sexual release otherwise. The whole point of NoFap, at least hard mode, is to overcome your biological sexual urges and dedicate your time and self to more important things. But if sexual release for the sake of sexual release is something that's important to you, then you can always try to work on your introversion and start talking to women for casual sex.

 

No it is not considered normal to perceive relationships as nothing more than a compromise where the guy bites his tongue and puts up with a woman in exchange for sex.

What is normal is to genuinely enjoy her as a human being, to enjoy talking with her, to enjoy going out to restaurants and eating with her, just in general to enjoy being with her, just as you would with a best friend. In turn being able to have sex with her is a bonus and something that actually has meaning when you do.

Sex with someone you love is making love, sex with someone you’re just with and putting up with is simply sex.

There is a difference between sex and making love.

 

Imo having sex with someone random or someone your not in love with is unappealing. However I have also only been sexually intimate with one woman. But I just feel like I’m the type of guy that wants to have intimate feelings other than just sex. I want to have emotional feelings too. Genuinely care for the woman on more than just a physical level. But that’s just me

Maybe you should keep trying to reboot and your brain will rewire itself to want to be around woman for companionship, and not just sex.

 

You dont have to do anything. Youre a healthy male so youre feeling raw energy and power coursing through your body. All these guys with flatlines and PIED would love to be in your shoes. The devil and your pussy obsessed porn addicted brain is trying to fool you into thinking its a problem so you PMO and and feel like shit afterwards. Youre not going do die if you don't jizz. Go on the success forum and ask one of those guys on day 93.

I went on a cruise with my fam this summer and I was in the middle of rebooting. I was sharing a room with my cousin so I wasn't going to be jerking cause that's wierd. I met some girls on day one and started hanging out with one on day 2. I hung out with my fam during the day and we hung out, made out and did everything but intercourse. My shit was hard as steel 30% of the time and I had the opportunity to go all the way but I declined. I also flirted with and hung out with a couple of other girls too. I did relapes a few days after coming back but thats beside the point.

That was an awesome experience because my brain turned a corner. I realized how powerful abstainance made me and that I have total control of my libido. Sexual release is something i can choose to enjoy the my sex drive no longer has the same power over me.