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Sexosomnia

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by GeorgeWasHere, Oct 30, 2013.

  1. GeorgeWasHere

    GeorgeWasHere Fapstronaut

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    I had something really bizarre happen last night. This morning when I was getting dressed for work my wife sits down and says, "I need to talk to you about something." I have no idea what this could be but she asks me if I remember what happened last night. I respond that I didn't. I remember reading and going to sleep and that's all. I know I woke up on the futon in our room which is not unusual because I have RLS and frequently need to move to another location to sleep. She then tells me that I kept trying to touch her between her legs and I persisted until she was able to get me to "wake up." She told me I seemed really confused and she thought I was still asleep. She said she cried for quite a while and I went right back to sleep after she asked me to move to the futon. She was really upset by the whole thing and said she was afraid to sleep in the same room as me the rest of the night.

    Needless to say I was completely mortified by this. This is completely out of the blue for me. I've been having pretty intense sexual dreams of late and I jump and move in my sleep but I've never done this. I'm feeling hurt and really confused right now. I have no recollection of this happening and I hate to think that my wife is scared to sleep next me. We talked and did some research and sexosomnia isn't uncommon. I've always been a strange sleeper (RLS, dreams where I've jumped on her when I thought a dog was attacking) so it's not unusual that it happened to me. I'm just really shocked because this is completely out of the blue. I am guessing it has something to do with repressed sexual frustration coming out unconsciously. In the end she said she wasn't mad at me I just worry about it happening again and any long term effects it might cause. I don't want to quit NoFap over this. I'm doing this to get rid of my PIED and make my love life better, not to cause me to be a weirdo, sleeping creeper. Anyone else have something like this happen?
     
  2. nofapcleatus

    nofapcleatus New Fapstronaut

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    I've had this happen before, so I can sympathize. Oddly enough though, I've never had a woman react negatively. I've even woken up in the middle of having intercourse. Problem is, just like you, it really bothers me to the point of being completely embarrassed about it. Hell, it even started well before I began noFap, so it doesn't have anything to do with it for me. Only thing I've been able to do to make it stop happening with past SO's is make sure we're sleeping at opposite sides of the bed with little to no physical contact. It sucks, but maybe it'll work for you. I hope it does man.
     
  3. chris4nj

    chris4nj Fapstronaut

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    I don't have experience of this. I have at times woken up screaming or crying.
    The only think i can think of is meditation. It can help calm the brain. Try 20 minutes of just paying attention to the breath before you go to bed. Try this sitting not lying down so you don't fall asleep. Thoughts iwl likely come in - just release them rather than get tangled up in them.
     

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