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Serious problems focusing.

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by need4realchg, Oct 3, 2019.

  1. Oct 3, 2019 #1
    need4realchg

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    I have 2 computers open, my phone , background music lights in, plus normal distractions of texting, kids talking to me, phone ringing in background.

    I am feeling like my concentration is on dialup speeds
     
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  2. Oct 3, 2019 #2
    Asgardian36

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    hey...i have none of that, man. But I cant get myself to complete the udemy course...its fucking ridiculous....
    I am loosing myelf...wasting all my years..i am fucking 28 now, without a job or money or career or a GF :(
     
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  3. Oct 3, 2019 #3
    need4realchg

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    I am right here with you man. I am addicted to checking my text messages, WhatsApp and my nofap.

    In a fucking circle. I need to break this because it’s making me so anxious. Thankfully I just deleted so many conversations because it was stressing me out.

    Now to be productive. Arrghhhg. Hard
     
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    Eeek. The Lord has recently blessed me with a new device, and I can hardly handle just it. Can't imagine all that going on, lol
     
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  5. Oct 4, 2019 #5
    Infrasapiens

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    Two computers? Sounds like a dream.
     
    Infrasapiens, Oct 4, 2019
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    need4realchg and Hold it in like this.
  6. Oct 4, 2019 #6
    need4realchg

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    Haha. Man thanks. You made me see how I’m not conscientious of all that I have.

    I have work computer and my personal computer. I got rid of my work phone so I just have one now.
     
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  7. Oct 4, 2019 #7
    Infrasapiens

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    I have no computer, but my ceiling offers the same amount of entertainment, if you stare at it durning long periods of time.
     
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  8. Oct 4, 2019 #8
    need4realchg

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    So what happens when you stare at it for short Periods of time ? Say a Cretaceous period of time?
     
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  9. Oct 4, 2019 #9
    TheGambler

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    I found your post, just gotta do something right now I had the urge for porn a few minutes ago and I also have a problem focusing. My successes so far are; starting a new course of study to get a 'real' job, bought a place of my own, staying close to my folks, and no PMO for quite a few days.

    I have a bit of a difficulty sticking with anything for long bc it seems like I fail at everything, or at least find something that anyone can do that doesn't pay well. My Mom try's to cheer me up but I know there's not a lot of hope for me to change my personality. Most of the change has already been done over my 15 years in alcohol recovery.

    The things that people claim improve them don't seem to all that much. Like I've been a workout freak before and focused mainly on that, and even though I felt better, life didn't improve all that much. I thought going in the military would improve me, and although i learned discipline there, it only worked under duress from the system. Now as a veteran everyone has moved on, and I'm left still in front of a computer and no confidence to speak of. I've done 12 step work, gone to meetings, learned game, banged girls, got hookers, traveled, made and lost money, improved relationships and broken them, and on an on. I can't even say the porn itself was the issue. It's me, I'm just not fitting in anywhere even when I try. In fact its worse when I try. Getting a girlfriend would make it worse. Then last year I really focus on a goal like all the counseling taught me, and end up worse off than when I started. Is there something I'm not addicted to? Alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, people, love. And I'm sure it could be worse.
     
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  10. Oct 4, 2019 #10
    need4realchg

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    Yeah love your success man. Great job. I appreciate your service too man.

    I’d die in the military because I will not let a motherfucker tell me what to do. It’s a shitty attitude and I am discovering I’m arrogant and my intelligence is my downfall.

    Working on that. But getting focused and consistent are huge struggles. I’m pmo free now but still struggling to develop “good study habits.” I get stuck either in a cycle of checking my devices/emails or I get lost in some zoning out fantasy of Netflix or just making spreadsheets.

    It might be ocd what you and I are dealing with. I grew up before people were diagnosed with a.d.d. So it might be why I’m struggling as an adult plus the poor concentration habits as a result of years Of pmo.
     
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