Seeing an Escort

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by GA93JDeereboy, Nov 4, 2018.

  1. GA93JDeereboy

    GA93JDeereboy Fapstronaut

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    If any of you guys been following me or read my post before you may know where I stand. Well I saw one. I don't feel awful. The sex was ok, not amazing as if you were with your partner. I dont want to make any excuses about why I did. I just wanted to have a good time.
     
  2. Ra's Al Ghul

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  3. GA93JDeereboy

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    Kissing an escort isnt the same as kissing someone who your with. I just like many other guys, just wanting some connection. I just have that guilt trip sometimes. I dont judge or discriminate. I just really want more then this is an actual relationship with a lady.
     
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  4. GA93JDeereboy

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    I need to get to the bottom of this once and for all! I want this to be my last thread over yes see the escort or no dont
    Ever see them again!
     
  5. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

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    What?! Usually prostitutes don't let you kiss.
     
  6. GA93JDeereboy

    GA93JDeereboy Fapstronaut

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    Some dont, some do, it all depends,but really I just really need to figure out if it is or isnt for me.
     
  7. Ra's Al Ghul

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    They provide a service for money. Has it sunk in yet?
     
  8. JKnight

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    There are a lot of influences that could trigger using an escort services: (1) desperation at not having sexual contact with a willing female in a long time, (2) the danger/thrill of it, (3) a sort of control element whereby you have complete control of the situation and you don't really need permission to do the things you want since they have traded that for cash, (4) lust and addiction and probably more.

    There is a common element behind all of these. You are allowing sexual desires dictate your actions in a manner that is not relationship building but feeding into your emotions. Porn is one way that it manifests, but there are many paths to this kind of addiction that does not revolve around porn. People come here because they want to stop MO and have no issue with P. There are many problematic sexual behaviours that result from addiction. You can even transfer addiction to a partner if you are not careful.

    I think the question about whether or not to include prostitutes as part of your relapse criteria is if you goal is to just stop P or M or to get out of addiction, as best if you can.
     
  9. GA93JDeereboy

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    I do have a problem with porn but my main issue is the escorts. I say I fit in number 1 and 4 from your list. I do want to stop and thie be my last thread over this issue.
     
  10. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Fapstronaut Moderator Assistant

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    Use the same energy you went to find an escort into finding a girlfriend.

    I understand. I had escorts too in past but they only want mpney that's it.

    Do little things everyday that makes you closer to your dream of getting a girl
     
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  11. ultrafabber

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    Ok, you did it, what's done is done.

    Just make sure you don't do it again.
     
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  12. GA93JDeereboy

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    You guys are right. I havent put in the effort to find a girl.
     
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  13. GA93JDeereboy

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    Day one of no more escorts, porn, or masturbation
     
  14. GA93JDeereboy

    GA93JDeereboy Fapstronaut

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    I did 108 days. Let's make this a real change. I never had a gf before but I would bet this issue would go away when I do. But anyway, it's time to change
     
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  15. JKnight

    JKnight Fapstronaut

    I think you answered your own question there. You've lacked any real meaningful relationships with a willing woman and that must warp your perception of women and make it harder. because, well, instant gratification is the name of the game with lust and addiction as it is. Why work hard at something when you can get your fix quicker? But you'll find that an intimate relationship will have something that nothing else will - someone, other than your family, who values, believes in, and supports you for you. It's worth the fight and the struggle.

    I congratulate you on your renewed vigor and determination to break from this addiction, all of it. Much success on your journey.
     
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  16. GA93JDeereboy

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    Thank you for you excellent words. You are absolutely right. It is so definitely worth the effort to find a lasting relationship.
     
  17. _.._

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    Polygamy is natural and paying for sex isn't wrong. If one can afford it, wants to do it and is able to dodge the dangers, there's no reason to hold back. However, not unlike "real" relationships, it will probably not make you happy.

    And that's why 90% of clients are married lol.
     
  18. GA93JDeereboy

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    Just following up with everybody. I'm still doing good since last post. No resets or relapses.
     
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  19. ultrafabber

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    Paying for sex is wrong. And usually having too many partners correlates to lesser satisfaction later in life and higher chance of divorce.

    I've done the escort thing when i was at a very low point in my life. Lots of escorts actually. Not healthy at all.
     
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  20. GA93JDeereboy

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    I know it isnt right for me. I'd rather fight and struggle and get 1000 rejections to get the one yes then pay an escort.
     
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