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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by BubbaGump3216, Feb 11, 2023.

  1. Feb 11, 2023 #1
    BubbaGump3216

    BubbaGump3216 New Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone,

    First day on here. I’m “conflicted” when it comes to porn. I enjoy it a lot and will miss it but I also have the urge to start dating again. If I’m going to have a successful relationship, I need to get the genie back in the bottle. I’m telling myself that I don’t lose anything by doing a 90-day hard reboot and can re-evaluate then. Framing it that way makes it easier for me to get started on a reboot rather than saying I’m done with porn for good. Going all the way to “done for good” feels like such a loss that I couldn’t even bring myself to try rebooting.

    I went pretty deep down the porn rabbit hole - hanging out on Discord with other gooners, smoking weed for the sole purpose of masterbating with porn, sniffing poppers, etc. I once gooned for 24 hrs straight. The fact that I was addicted was actually part of the kink.

    …but as I mentioned, I feel like I’d like someone in my life now and I highly doubt they are going to tolerate these behaviors, and of course, if I am perfectly honest with myself, my porn positivity wasn’t doing me any favors mentally or physically.

    Any of this relatable?
     
    BubbaGump3216, Feb 11, 2023
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  2. Feb 11, 2023 #2
    Ank07

    Ank07 Fapstronaut

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    I suggest you reading this book: https://www.docdroid.net/qZJZxiA/why-you-should-never-masturbate-by-david-baldwin-z-liborg-pdf

    This book can be based on spiritual things and not based on scientific facts but things wrote in this book you must have felt if you PMO.
     
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  3. Mar 24, 2024 #3
    slippy

    slippy New Fapstronaut

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    This is extremely relatable to me. I’m now 30+ days free of PMO but have a long history of using weed and poppers for long PMO binges. These sessions also involved a lot of chatting on meetup forums where I’ve developed quite a deep relationship with this older guy who wants to meet up. I’m currently battling the urge to log in to that app to check if he’s written to me since I started this journey a month back. I’ll not bend though. How has it been going for you?
     
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  4. Mar 24, 2024 #4
    Orphan

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    Hi there and welcome!

    A lot of conquering this addiction comes down to your motivation to quit. Coming to Nofap took a lot of courage on your part, and some real determination to make a change in your life. So start with this: Write down the reasons you want to get recovery from PMO. Include anything you've lost, anything you're afraid you're not going to achieve, how bad you feel afterwards, whatever. Go over it every day, adding and refining as you go. Then find a way to remind yourself of them every day. If you focus on your motivation, it will help you to want to make the changes.

    If you're looking for a relationship in the future and you need some motivation to conquer your addiction, read the "Significant Other Journals" on the site. Don't comment on them - just let the enormity of what porn use does to an innocent partner. If their words don't motivate you... well sorry, but you shouldn't be looking for a partner right now.

    If you need more information on the practical steps you need to take to quit, I've got a Beginner's Guide here that has some pointers of how to start.
    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/attacks-of-opportunity.358094/#post-3766486

    All the best with your reboot,
    ~Orf
     
    Orphan, Mar 24, 2024
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