I’m on day 10 now, and well, people say that “hardmode” is somewhat different to nofap “light”. Is it true you can’t touch your penis? Or rub it and even touch it with your legs? I don’t believe is that strict though. So, what are the rules? I’m getting a girl actually, and well, sometimes we get dirty talks and I fantasize with her, but nothing magical or fake, the real world. Is this ok?
You decide whatever mode you want to be on. You can decide that you only want to abstain from PM and not O. That's a sort of middle mode. As for touching yourself, well, it can easily lead to a relapse. You should learn to control yourself. It's hard at first, but once you get into the hang of it, it's much easier.