replacement

I'm sorry you're going through this. If Netflix is such a problem for you, you need to quit using Netflix, just like porn, especially if you feel like garbage afterward.

 

Netflix has something in common with porn--particularly, the fact that it's virtually never-ending. It offers endless novelty. It's the same reason social media, YouTube, and dating apps are so addicting--you can scroll for hours and keep seeing new things, things tailored specifically to your interests. Remember, these platforms were designed to be addicting and keep you engaged for as long as possible, because someone who is addicted is someone with very little sales resistance.

It's also very common for people to drop one addiction only to pick up another. It's the brain crying out for a big hit of dopamine. If you're not allowing it to get dopamine via PMO, it'll gladly take some through a giant piece of chocolate cake or a huge bet at the roulette wheel.

Just take a moment, breathe, and allow the feeling to pass. Don't act on the feeling, and don't judge yourself for having the feeling. Just let it drift by, and meditate on becoming the man you want to be.

 

This is an important topic. You could say we're in an age of hyper-stimulation, and it's not just porn.

I'm doing a similar thing with YouTube. I can spend hours on it, and half justify it because a few videos had relationship advice or were about my hobbies. I think a bit of that is okay, but it's hard to be mindful about it.

Really it feels like a massive reward, and if I start with this stuff early in the day before achieving anything else, my motivation drops off a cliff.

It doesn't harm me with shame or sexual disfunction like PMO, but it takes time and energy away from more important areas of my life.