Relation between abuse(sexual) and pmo?

I think it's an important subject, i experienced trauma when i was young and i believe it did have a lasting effect on my behaviours towards porn and addiction in general. It's quite a known fact amongst the therapy community that children who experience abuse are in a higher risk group of later committing some level of sexual offence for example or some other level of criminal offence. but not all of them, it is just a fairly common and sad statistic amongst offenders. having to deal with any level of trauma when you are at an age where you can't properly articulate what has happened or fear you wont be taken seriously or even believe that what happened may have been normal, leads to years of pent up aggression which i still sometimes struggle to deal with

 

I wan't abused sexually, but I was abused emotionally and physically when I was just hitting puberty. I didn't start watching porn because I was abused, but while I was living in that home porn eventually became a way for me to redirect some of those painful emotions.

I also second what @thorswrath32 was saying about having to deal with trauma at such a young age. I was probably able to articulate what was happening at the time, but I was in the camp of "nobody would take me seriously even if I did articulate it". I just ended up burying it, and it wasn't until I reached my mid-twenties that I realized all the memories of the abuse were coming up again.. very vividly. I had spent so much energy suppressing those emotions and feelings and convincing myself that nobody cared that this was happening that I actually started to doubt myself, and for a while I actually started to question whether any of it was actually real or not. Was I really abused, or are my memories just embellishments about what really happened?

I started seeing a therapist a few weeks ago, and I hope to work through some of the abuse I went through as a kid. The way I see it, I'm being the advocate and the guardian that I needed when I was a child.

 

I don't see how what I said in my original comment relates to that...

I should be clear: I was never raped. I was physically abused. My father hit me, gave me bruises and black eyes, threw objects at me, grabbed me, tossed me into walls, and mocked me when I cried from the pain for being a little baby.

Having said all of that, I agree with you about there being a double standard between genders when it comes to rape victims. One of my closest friends was raped by a woman at a party in high school, and no on has ever taken his story seriously other than his therapist and the rest of our close friend group. Many males who end up in prison become rape victims while serving their sentences, and society doesn't seem to have a good attitude about that, either. There are so many jokes about being raped in prison, and I've even witnessed police officers use the prospect of being raped in prison to intimidate people during routine traffic stops.

Rape is a very serious offense, regardless of the gender of the victim.

 

I appreciate that. I don't entirely understand it, either, but I think a lot of it has to do with not knowing any better. My father was abused by his stepfather and mother when he was growing up, and I don't think he ever got professional help to integrate that experience with the rest of his life. So, when parenting me and my siblings was difficult, hitting us probably seemed like a natural option for him. He probably knew it wasn't just, and he's actually apologized to me about it since I've grown up, but I don't think he ever really learned that there are other ways to handle stressful parenting situations. This is called the cycle of abuse. The role models in his life were anything but. Hopefully, by seeking out the help of a professional, I will break the cycle of abuse, and I will not allow my frustration with my father to manifest itself as abuse.

I've seen this as well. One of my close friends dumped his girlfriend a few years ago, and she followed him around for a few weeks afterwards. She would sit on public benches outside of restaurants he was eating at with his family and stuff. Definitely creepy, and definitely not okay.

I don't think I agree with this. Rape is a horrendous act, no matter who the victim is. I don't think it becomes worse if the victim is a woman. It is still a violation of one's body whether the victim is male or female. Rape affects men and women differently, but I don't think it's clear that one's suffering is greater than the other.

I think we should be sensitive and empathetic to all rape victims, regardless of their gender.

Not really sure what you mean there...