Hello everyone!! Feeling quite low right now because of the relapse. It was going great till last week but suddenly i started having ill thoughts and wanted to unload and finally it happened last night. Worst thing is that it wasn't just MO, I did it to porn. And it happened multiple times in a single night. Not feeling guilty or anything just disappointed with my self-control. I definitely won't go back to PMOing again like i used to. I felt many benefits and felt my life returning to normal so I would just climb back to my horse and move forward. I just wanted to know that how much progress do you guys think i lost because of this relapse? Should I reset my counter to 0? Also please help me so that this doesn't happen again. I want to heal completely and not breakdown after hitting 90 or 100 days. Thank You.
Sounds like you have deep regrets which is great, move forward and forget about the relapse now. You won’t do it again!
It'll be like a pause to benefits for few days/weeks, not that everything is lost but that's if you don't binge and get yourself back on road. -Yes zero the counter. What you did is a true relapse. -You are your best tutor. Everyone has his own weaknesses, notice them and find ways to improve. -Important to be humble, everytime you get too confident, know that a relapse might be awaiting. -Also get blockers. The time you need to turn them off(if you ever do) lets your awareness light on your situation.
Thanks for the suggestions. The relapse itself isn't a problem to me, what i fear most is the chaser effect. I once had a streak of 86 days but after I relapsed i just couldn't stop myself and fell back to old habits completely. How do I avoid the chaser effect? I will use blockers for sure.
Stop fearing. What you fear becomes your reality soon. Accept that you might relapse again. Just accept and be aware