Hi folks, So since I started nofap I haven't pmo and it's been almost 10 days now. As I like to mention I don't count days as I feel counting really makes you think about pmo and the hard effort you're putting everyday and it psychologically becomes more exhausting. I've had months where i forgot how long I abstained and everyday wasn't that much of an effort. So just a thought hope it helps.
Today as I am struggling against pmo a lot I happened to stumble upon this amazing article about the lies of porn: http://www.covenanteyes.com/2017/05...5030555&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook It kind of opened my eyes to it and I want want everyone of you to go through it. Also I feel a strong urge. Any tips or motivation will be highly appreciated
Counting works for me. It gives me a status that I am very reluctant to lose. Giving up porn is hard, so I am happy to use anything to help motivate myself.
Counting is a great way to track your achievements! As long as you don't become to obsessive over it.
I plan to only count up until 90 days. Once I have reached 90 days I will stop counting as, it will become a lifestyle habit. I don't plan on going back to doing it. It's a waste of time and energy with no profit, but total loss.
I hope it works that way for you @TimeToChange59837. For me the hardest day so far was recently, Day 458, and it started a very difficult few weeks. 90 days, 180 days, 365 days were not enough to 'reboot' me. I've stopped thinking about reboot, and more about lifelong addiction. We'll see. Perhaps it's just because I'm older, or I'm doing something wrong, or some twist in my psyche that gave porn such a lasting grip on me. Who knows. Good luck.
Woah, 458 is no joke buddy. Good job! Not many people are capabale of making it as far as you have, congratulations! I hope someday I am able to reach your stage soon. All I can say to you is keep it up. I'm sure full 'recovery' isn't too far away for you because I have heard for some persons withdrawals can last up to 2 years which you are closing up on.
On day 10 or 11 now. Not quite sure I feel like yesterday was the hardest for me and it all started with me watching a movie with my friends and there were a couple of explicit scenes in it. Now I think, I should have just lowered my gaze rather than put too much effort afterwards. So a slight slip could have wasted my hard work. Also cold shower helped a lot as my temptation subsided for an hour or so and helped me to sleep. Now today I feel a bit agitated but not as much. I feel the reason why it was so hard for me to control myself yesterday was there wasn't anything solid on my schedule and I was just killing time. Finding an outlet to enjoy myself and that eventually led me close to that old habit. Having things lined up on your schedule no matter how small can help you not getting trapped in those thoughts.
Relapsed. Now on day day 2 again. YouTube played a major factor so I blocked it as well. Let's see how it goes from here
So I'm back after a a week or more off from NoFap. I'm thinking of making this my journal. So I have successful streak of more than a week now. One thing that I read somewhere in NoFap and I feel that has helped me a lot to fight this addiction is: starve the addiction and it will eventually die out, continue feeding it and it will grow stronger and take over you eventually. What I learnt from it is that the little innocent things that we do that we think won't lead us to pmo are actually making our addiction stronger and before you know it you slowly and surely get into the trap. I feel way better in just a week and I'm thankful everyday that I do not have to face the guilt, depression, regret and the weakness i felt after pmo.
