Recovered from DE?

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by toomanymany, Mar 5, 2019.

  1. toomanymany

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    Hello everyone!
    Has anyone been recovered from Delayed Ejaculation? I've been suffering from it since I married 6 months ago. I had not had sex before I married. I think it's related to PA. I'm just wondering is there a way to cure it with no PMO? Has anyone achieved to win over this? I simply can't ejaculate during real sex or it takes way too long to ejaculate. I feel like universe is telling me not to breed and it makes me depressed.
    Thanks for your answers.
     
  2. ReclaimedLife

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    Hey 2many,

    Go 90 days without touching yourself and watching porn or porn substitutes.

    Some need longer. I would suggest to quit porn forever.
    If you watched a lot of porn before, abstaining from physical touch will re-sensitize your penis and rewire your brain as well.
    Thinking that you aren't supposed to breed is only something fucking porn will do to you.
    Get rid of it and let your mind and body heal.
    I would suggest being honest to your wife and focus on intimacy while your rebooting, rather then the sex.
    At least for the first 30-60 days.

    All the best, be strong.
     
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  3. bfdet

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    hi your DE is likely rooted in your PMO. Your body has "learned" to expect certain types of mental and physical stimulation. PIV provides a totally different set of sensations and your body just doesn't know how to process the sensations. Stop PMO and stop any solo MO. Spend intimate time with your wife. Proceed slowly and you will learn to savor the sensations that happen together. They are MUCH better than anything you've EVER experienced with PMO !!
     
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  4. go4aRUN

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    Some very good advice here.

    It would be nice/reassuring to hear somebody's success story as well. Like someone who was in 2many's position and got sex back to normal by obstaining from PMO. I can't find out if this works while I am single!
     
  5. bfdet

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    hi 'run (and others)

     
  6. go4aRUN

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    Could not find the link, but I did find some success stories on this website in the last hour or so.

    I was probably asking what I already know. I might take a little time or a lot of time, but I know that no PMO will let me enjoy being with my next GF a lot more.

    And as somebody's signature here says: It is better to be prepared and not have the opportunity than have the opportunity and not be prepared.
     
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  7. bfdet

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    sorry, there is no link. what I meant to type was "my post on March 13 in this thread is my own experience"

    brain and fingers got out of sync when typing !

    If you want to read further about a journey to healing DE, check out some old posts (2016) by RedEd101 where he shares his experiences.

    one day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
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  8. go4aRUN

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    Thanks, man. That was a really good read!
     
  9. bfdet

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    Hi 'many !

    Checking on you. Are you doing OK ?

    one day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  10. toomanymany

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    Hello!
    First of all thank you all for considerations and kind replies.
    It's my 65th day withouth PMO and it's been almost 7 months since I've married and have only been able to ejaculate for once. That is, I still can't ejaculate normally.
    But I feel better day by day. Last time I had sexual intercourse I almost did it. But when I'm reaching the climax I always think "OMG it's happening this time!" and often distract myself. LOL.
    Also do you think changing sex positions would help? My wife only wants missionary position and says that she feels pain in different ones and doing missionary for half an hour it makes me exhausted.
    I still have porn related fantasies in my mind but I'm more successful in suppressing them.
     
  11. ReclaimedLife

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    If she has pain in other positions, i would work my ass off with foreplay and make her crave you.

    Doggystyle with spread legs is great for both of you if you start really slow.
    Dont go in right away just go in very very slowly and encourage her by telling her how good it feels for you.
    How amazing SHE feels for you in that position. If she is flexible, she can lay on her stomache with her legs spread and you can try that.

    But make sure to spend the most amount of the time in the bed with making her feel good long before you enter her.

    It will relax her mind and she will more likely be more open to try something new.
     
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  12. bfdet

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    Hi @ReclaimedLife !

    Please consider using the "spoiler alert" function with postings that may include text that could be triggers for some folks. Hit the " + " button on the toolbar and it should take you to the correct tool. (While your post didn't bother me, your above post may not be easy for others to get past !)

    Thanks in advance for your help.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     
  13. ReclaimedLife

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    Acknowledged and changed. You've got a strong point there.
     
  14. bfdet

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    Thank you !
     
  15. Autopilot1987

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    May be my cent will help You.
    Because Exactly same happened with me when i was married 3 months ago. I was not Ejaculating at all. It was frustating for me and my wife as well. Many fights between Us, But I highly suggest you to be patient about it.
    Someone said watch porn after that go in the room. I didnt because I was on P, and i didn't wanted that pathetic thing back in my married life.
    I was making daily intercourse on Pills because of PIED, one day i thought lets leave this fukin shit i cant ejaculate so what is the purpose of doing sex, I left everything Kissing, Touching hugging everything for straight 7 days,
    After that i did intercourse with my wife and pressurized my vein which is in between testicals and Ass hole. When you presssurize it during intercourse you will feel the whole vein towards the dick head. After 1 minute start thinking that you are about to come even though you are not but just think and think your dick head is going to release it.
    And I couldnt believe that i ejaculated within 5 minutes and my wife was surprised that how this miracle happend however that night i couldnt satisfy my wife fully but i learnt alot.
    I did the same next day and then next and then i get use to of this.
    In three months together i ejaculated 5 times and then she had to go to her parents, so i havnt tried it most recent. But this is how i cured my DE.

    So I realized that during masturbation we just do it and it comes off. we are habitual of this. but in real intercourse you have to put some effort, Semen has to come from somewhere and you have to bring it from your veins or testicals i dont know the medical name. Once you learnt it You are good to go.

    Hope this will help.
     
  16. toomanymany

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    Day 94, no porn no edge etc. whatsoever; DE still exists. I'm starting to suspect it's a problem related to psychology. I'm really sad. Maybe it takes longer time for me I don't know...
     
  17. bfdet

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    Healing never seems to happen as fast as we might like and sometimes, healing doesn't seem as complete as we'd like. Continuing your noPMO journey will allow your body and your mind more time to heal. Yeah, its frustrating that the healing can take a while, but there is damage to be undone and your body and mind must learn to respond to new types and levels of stimulation. If during PMO, you used a "death grip" or other intense types of physical stimulation, it may take longer than 90 days for your body to perform in a relationship. If you are worried that there may be a physical issue, consult a doctor for appropriate tests (for example, are you potentially diabetic ? Low T ?) You will get better. Stay on course. You can do this.

    One day at a time is how we all succeed.
     

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