Hey guys I am 11 months into my reboot and experiencing some good days and some bad. Ive heard it takes 2 months for every year addicted to completely heal. Can someone tell me how much longer I got?
Tell me about your abstaining. Have you abstained from everything? Any relapses at all? Have you looked at porn or mild stuff frequently/occasionally? How deep was your addiction, did you watch hardcore porn and did you do it often? Did you experience physical problems because of your habit such as ED? Did you go through periods of flatline?
I have only masturbated to porn about 10 times on my streak. I hardly ever look at porn stuff and my addiction was pretty deep. I masturbated to porn nearly every day for 8.5 years. I have had periods of flatline where i feel anxious and sick. Also, i watched hardcore porn and i did it quite often. I experienced some ED.
Well this is a problem if I understood correctly. Have you gone straight 11 months without masturbating to porn at all? If not, then you haven't abstained for that long. You have abstained for how ever long ago was your last session.
Ive made significant progress during this time of my reboot, so I'm choosing not to set back my counter. What I am looking for is someone who can tell me how much longer I got until I am completely healed.
It's great that you've made progress but you have to be honest with yourself. You don't get any benefit from lying to yourself. What's the point of thinking that you have gone 11 months if you really haven't? It isn't a numbers competition, you shouldn't focus on the streak but rather on your recovery. You need to get rid of your mentality that you need to keep your streak alive, the streak is irrelevant. Counting the number of days help you keep track of your progress and events, that's it. @The Peak summarized it well. It is a mindset you are trying to achieve, not a number.
That is not a streak! That is at least 10 streaks. The counter records the last time you masturbated, used porn or had a voluntary orgasm. You cannot choose to ignore these resets. Well, if you do, it is meaningless. Come on man, reset it.
You hit the nail right on the head! Both of you guys (@CH3RRY and @The Peak ) are so right. Continue to preach this since we need this to get to people that you can't cheat on a reboot by numbers, but that rather it's a mental mindset.