Hey all. New to NoFap, but a veteran of PMO. Started before the Internet some 40 years ago. The Internet just supercharged my addiction. By all outward appearances I'm very successful, but my dark secret is eating me alive. My wife is the only one that knows and she's been supportive, but thousands spent on an addiction counselor and over a year in weekly SA meetings (with continual relapses) hasn't gotten me squat. Figured I'd try to find a different path to a fap-free life and came across the NoFap Reddit. My immediate goal is to go hardline for the next week to close out August by abstaining. No P, no M and no O. I guess that's called PMO-mode. Then I plan on joining a September challenge. I've made it a week many times before, but never a month. Here's to a new method and a new outcome. To quote a certain POTUS candidate, "What the hell have you got to lose?"
@NoToePick Welcome This community might play important role for you, I am highly recommending you to start writing a journal as well as reading others in your age group Good luck
mrobertm, Wish I could. No digital devices = no paycheck. I'm trying to change the way I use them however. This site is the new 'release' when I need to step away from the emails or PowerPoint or spreadsheets. Used to go to google news, but that often led to more questionable sites. So nofap is my new home page. Thanks for you comments. Helps me be engaged in this community.
iHappy, Will do tonight. I'm new to this forum idea so I need to figure out how it all works. Internet savvy, but forum ignorant. Thanks for posting.
k9 blocker is a good one, i also use google chrome add-ons that block adult content, they are easy to disable but the extra couple of seconds that it takes to disable them sometimes serves as a waking call and sobers the mind
Day 2 of my journey. Still riding the high of making the decision to change my life. I know this won't be easy because I've tried and failed so many times before. Looking forward to remaining engaged on this forum. Hoping it will be the difference I need to be successful this time.
One other thought. Does anyone else feel their PMO is acting out on a lust addiction? I find it isn't only P that starts the cycle for me. Sometimes just lusting about a real life woman I see can lead me to start the PMO cycle. Seems like I suffer from LPMO. Can I get an Amen?
Welcome, friend. What I've come to realize is that everyone's journey, motivation, triggers, etc. is different. Don't know about a lust addiction. I think PMO for me was a basic dopamine craving-- though there is much else that has come up in the process. If you haven't already, watch this video. It changed my life. Do keep journaling. This is hard but possible. Expect some physical effects.
Watched it last night. It was really good. Also reading his book, YBOP. Going to move over to the "Ages 40+" forum and start journaling tonight. See you there.
Amen, one of the reason I started with nofab, I was scheming on affairs I could have, porn wasn't enough for me. It scared me.
That's actually a fear I have. If I forego PMO, will I go looking for it in other inappropriate places? Guess I'll have to cross that bridge if I come to it.
