Random surges of desire

The strong urges are prominent within the first 30 days. It goes away, you just need to distract yourself and also acknowledge that you do not haveto give in.

Here's a resource:

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/the-ten-questions-of-relapse-prevention

 

in fact i m also getting very strong desire to fap and due to abstaining my stress level is increasing and also i end up wasting lot of time in controlling my thoughts .. and my mind is instigating me to fap and get relaxed...suggest me what to do ??

 

There are other ways to relax. Try meditation, this was pretty helpful to me.

 

The urges are what get me EVERY time. They are always subtle and tricky too. It never starts out as "I think I'll look at harcore porn and I'll make sure I don't edge." It's something silly like I'll see a woman in a skirt, makes me think of my wife in a mini skirt, which makes me open the file of pics of the file I have, and then just a "little" edging, which grows into more, until a full on relapse.

 

I'm telling you bro that is just a natural orgasm. Just give yourself this rule. I won't put my hands on my penis. And that will pass. It probably starts as like a fantasy and then just develops into like a orgasm. Just keep your hands off and your golden.