I've not been able to find too much info on it, but my question to you guys is whether you find your fetishes "act up" more during the first month of NoFap? I mean, last time I did my 29 day reboot I wasn't really that bothered by it, but for some reason I have a *lot* of flashbacks and constant arousal to them now, to the point it's making me feel terribly depressed (and at the same time ridiculously horny which makes no sense in any way...), like I'll never be able to get aroused by normal, vanilla sex ever again... Sometimes I make the mistake of going along with them to "test" if they still turn me on, which is probably not a good idea this early on (or ever, for that matter) because it still does, and even though I then stop myself it just feels very overwhelming to say the least. Have any of you experienced this? If so, I could definitely use some advice on how to kill any and all intrusive fantasies, in particular fetish stuff. I've just started week 3 so I really want to push for that flatline, which, I think, I could really use right about now.
My boyfriend had strong urges to be a submale the first month and talked about and wanted anal play. After that first month they diminished. Now at about 100 days no PMO he says he doesn't want that anymore.
Thanks for your response... That's great to hear, considering my fetish also revolves around femdom/strapon. The ridiculous thing is, if someone'd have told me two years ago that I'd end up becoming interested in this, I'd have probably laughed in their face... I mean, I've never really liked "submissive" women in and of itself, but the domination to this degree is not natural for me; it makes me feel terrible. I've actually tried it in real life and hated it. It felt, both mentally and physically, rather gross, even though the woman I did it with was beautiful and sweet. I walked out of her door with a huge smile on my face because I now *knew* I didn't like it, but it came back with a vengeance about 2 weeks later. This was last year, and I've been struggling with these stupid fetishes ever since, more confused than ever as to why it was still here, so knowing that only after a 100 days, your boyfriend is no longer interest in it is truly motivational. I'd like to know what he did in the meantime to get this filth out of his brain though? Like, did he have to cut off any "fantasies" and "urges" on the spot? I've read conflicting info on it. Some say you should just "ride it out" and others say you should "cut it off" so I'm not sure what exactly I'm supposed to be doing, you know?
He stopped watching all porn and no masterbation. All he had was me. He thought of it, he even mentioned a strap on for me. Yikes. Lol I said I would try it if he wanted. We never acted on it. After about a month I said something to him about it and he got defensive and said he didn't want that anymore. I said why? He said I guess cause I'm not watching porn. It's a gradual process I think. At least for him it was.
Right, that's great to know. There's a woman I'm interest in as well, and she in me, though officially we are "just friends" due to circumstances. She knows about my NoFap thing, and is very supportive of me. I've even told her about this fetish, and she didn't judge. It's just so strange that this addiction can warp your entire personality though. It's very scary. So after about a month he got less interested in it... Yeah I guess it was sort of like that for me during my 29 days reboot; I'd have no interest in these fetishes from halfway week 3 and 4 onward, but then something massively stressful happened with a friend of mine, and I ended up relapsing so bad that I was yet again considering finding myself a woman to do this stuff with. It was almost a form of self-punishment (which makes sense considering the context of this fetish)... I also think it partially has to do with the PIED thing, because on January first this year, which was the 4th week, I actually got aroused by simply thinking of normal sex again, and it felt "right", as opposed to the creepy taboo-ness of this fetish stuff... Alright, so I guess it's "normal" that during the first month of abstaining these fetishes become worse. I'll just have to ride it out, exercise self-control, and not give in to these thoughts or "fantasies". I'll do my best to not even entertain them in any way, for whatever reason then. Thanks for the info.
