Question on emotional affairs

Crazy that men are hurt more by sexual affairs and women more by emotional affairs.

 

I did. Long long before our porn D-Day, and before we were married. I wanted it to be more than an emotional affair but I suspect she didn't, anyway things kept getting in the way of us taking it further. It lasted about a year and then *exploded* when our partners found out. It is one of those moments in our life when I really damaged my now-wife emotionally. That said it was very important for me. It taught me how careful I had to be, how flirting and lust can cross an invisible boundary and become serious before I have had time to regroup. It also taught me about love. After it all blew up my then-girlfriend went on holiday to patch things up (though I was mustering strength to leave her). When it came to it I had a powerful realisation. I saw clearly how much I loved her and that my life was about making her happy, not leaving her. That was in (I think) 1988 and we're still married.

But I guess that's not very helpful to you. I'm not sure how to relate my experience to your husband's, sorry. Perhaps it can be an opportunity for him to learn too. I hope so. Good luck.

 

Here’s the problem with affairs, no matter what kind really, ONS, physical or emotionally. They are still looking for something they feel is missing and the affairs are still novel.
I found depending where the escalation is at even with emotional affairs (and can be one sided for the PA) is often it’s a confusion between infatuation and love and still based in novelty, excitement, lust and infatuation with fantasy. Affairs are still escaping the reality of life with the SO.
It’s a rarity they even workout because when it turns into a real relationship with all the stress and hard things that goes with a relationship that they are trying to escape from in the first place.
PA’s can have affairs even miss placed emotional ones. Look at some of the guys with attachments to cam girls and thinking they have love and connection for them.
My husband had emotional affairs really one sided that I know of and more than one however I had always suspected there was a not so one sided time. He was looking for hookups, and even went to a ONS over a few years. It was all part of the escalation as he moving towards crossing into SA.